The more we fail to understand what we struggle with, the more we will fail to understand what others struggle with too.
It’s far easier to know how to help others than it is to help ourselves, unless of course we have no idea how to help ourselves. Issues always seem simpler in other people’s eyes, just like other people’s problems seem simple to us. Perhaps it’s got something to do with the fact that other people’s problems aren’t our problems, so there is no pressure to sort the problem out.
Perhaps it’s also the fact that some of us are good at sorting our issues out and tend not to over-complicate things, where others may continually complicate things. It also depends on whether the issue is life changing. But unless we’re thinking clearly, the issue may always seem distorted.
Although it’s easy to distance ourselves from other people’s issue and see things clearer on what they deal with, it’s not always easy for us to do it for ourselves. Where others might try to help us with our issue, we tend to have to protect ourselves from the fear surrounding it.
The fear and anxiety of what I have to deal with feels worse, than the problem itself. It’s our fears to our issues that give rise to us feeling more apprehensive and fearful, where someone else looking at our issue won’t feel those things, because they’re emotionally detached.