Recognising our feelings

Not many of us use introspection, but by observing our own mental and emotional processes, we will start to recognise our thoughts and feelings. We will then begin to recognise the feelings that are making us unhappy.

We can increase our wellbeing by accepting that we may have negative feelings. By accepting we may be feeling unhappy, angry, or disappointed, we can reduce our stress.

Also, by accepting and recognising our feelings, we intentionally remove our thinking from the unconscious part of our brain to the conscious part, the reasoning part of the brain, so that we get to deal with those emotions.

24 Sep, 2017

6 thoughts on “Recognising our feelings

  1. I agree. Not many of us will use introspection as a means of recognising or understanding our emotions. We tend to just get on with things, regardless of how we feel.

    Perhaps more of us should. I know we’d be happier for it.

    1. Thank you. Yes, your last paragraph sums up your response nicely; we would be happier for it. I think it sad that we just get on with things without thinking about how we feel.

      If we just took the time to work through our emotions, we wouldn’t be as stressed as we are and wouldn’t have to take time off work due to sick days brought about through stress.

  2. Yes, sometimes I get upset with someone who is giving an attitude and being judgemental. In some cases, I second guess myself and wonder if what I’m feeling (anger, frustration) is from me over-thinking; then I really get upset if I do nothing.

    The only defense mechanism I can identify, is completely cutting ties with those people, even family. Then I wonder by doing that if it’s the right thing. But no one on earth I know wants to set themselves up by being hurt again.

    1. Thanks Bonnie. I think that is how people want you to feel.

      We tend to second-guess ourselves, when we think what they’re saying is true; but it’s only true because they’ve convinced themselves it’s true and that is further from the truth.

      They also don’t want to admit their own failings, so instead choose to point someone else’s failings out; which empowers them. The reality of course is that they will only feel empowered for a finite time.

      At some point we must come face to face with ourselves and deal with our own demons instead of making our demons about someone else. There is no need to second guess yourself Bonnie.

      None of this is about you, it’s about them. Sadly, family included.

  3. So cutting all communication with those people is a good thing? I hope so.

    It’s the only way I can think of at the moment, hearing their names and especially their voices make me cringe, but I try to shove that feeling down and trudge on.

    1. No one wants to make the decision to move away from someone and when they do it’s usually only ever a last resort; but if someone is making us ill then sometimes we have no choice.

      From what you say Bonnie in your last paragraph it sounds as though you have no choice on where you are.

      I remember spending 3 weeks apart from a family member and that became the last resort for me, but that three weeks was the best three weeks I can remember. During the three weeks that person reassessed their behaviour and apologised.

      Things were better after that.

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