The more we hold resentment in our hearts, the more we will hand out abuse. Abuse starts at the point resentment starts to outweigh compassion.
If you find yourself dwelling on something that’s said by someone that you know has upset you, or your conversations are loaded, or if you keep going back to the same issue, you are holding resentment.
Resentment is a misguided attempt to transfer pain to others, in the form of emotional abuse. If left to grow, resentment will leave us bitter and hostile. When we start to blame others, our thought processes will often result in a sense of us being self-righteous, which will temporarily make us feel better.
But from a negative life with negative experiences, feeling resentful will bubble away under the surface, for as long as we allow it. By the time we’re aware, we’re already feeling bitter and angry about our circumstances and how our lives have turned out.
Resentment isn’t something that goes away unless we deal with it, it’s something that over time will become our very focus. We don’t always know we hold on to resentment, but the symptoms I describe will eventually make us aware.