I wanted to elaborate further on my previous blog on ‘Running away.’ There are different reasons we run, but the very reason we run from ourselves is exactly the reason we should run towards ourselves.
We isolate ourselves, we emotionally hide, we lose the connection between what’s happening in the world and our realities. We run from our issues, from others and we continue to emotionally run. We avoid the evidence, which proves that how we see ourselves is the absolute truth. It’s a habit.
We learn from an early age how to numb the pain, we mask how we feel, through piling on the food, drugs, sex and alcohol. We buy into this habit-forming lifestyle, avoiding how we feel in the short term that turns into the long term, until we deal with us.
If we’re not numbing the pain, we’re driven by fear. Fear that not necessarily has anything to do with us, but through our life, our experiences and our past. It’s discomfort that somehow becomes familiar. Through our experiences, some of us will feel shame, others may feel toxic, anything that makes us feel unworthy that we’re beyond help, or a solution.
And we continue to resist change. Change that will bring about new things, a new life, more freedom to think the way we want to, rather than feeling tied to the old feelings. Freedom to move on from our lifestyle patterns to give us what we need.
Then there are gender roles that play out. Men are brought up to feel that vulnerability is a form of weakness, when in fact it’s a form of strength. The truth is, strength lies in our ability to see and change things. To take ourselves in hand and work through the things that continue to hurt us.
To see that we have power to take control, for us to accept that we may need help and that’s okay. We must learn to overcome our battles with who we’ve become, rather than who we are.