We must speak our own truth. It’s important we say what we need to say, in the same way it’s important for others to say what they need to say, for us to accept what they say and for them to accept what we say.
As long as what we say comes from the heart and it’s done with no malicious intent, there should be no problem. Honesty has and always will be the best policy. For some we’re either not sure how to say what we want to say, for others they don’t know what to say, so may end up saying nothing at all.
When we have things that we want to say and we don’t say what those things are, it’s us that get hurt because we either live with guilt, or live with animosity towards another instead. It’s perhaps therefore important to say what we feel, but be guarded in the way we say those things. Don’t blurt things out. Be careful with your words because words have a massive impact.
In hindsight when we look back there are usually lots of things we don’t say, lots of things we wish we had said and lots of things we’ve probably said that we wish we hadn’t.
Living with ‘what ifs,’ or ‘I should have’s’ is worse than getting what we feel out into the open, even if we’re not sure how to say what we need to say. With practice, we will always find a way.