Saying how things are

Although being open and transparent doesn’t often rewarded us with brownie points, particularly from those who aren’t, it does mean we get to sit comfortably with our conscience.

And although being open and transparent about our lives doesn’t always sit comfortably with others, we shouldn’t have to accept another person’s behaviour, which is even more important why we need to tell them how we feel.

If we say something and that someone reacts negatively, perhaps they should think about why we’re saying what we’re saying, instead of them making what we say about us. That said, not saying how things are for us, will eventually create a rift in our already fragile relationships.

But realistically, there is only so much we can keep to ourselves, before something blows up and that’s not pretty either. And not being open not only messes with our health, but stunts emotional and spiritual growth too.

Sadly, not saying what we feel, also continues to create more emotional distance, fall-outs, arguments and secrecy between people and in relationships and can also be the difference between us staying well and becoming ill.

Saying how things are means we’re being true to ourselves. We get one crack at the life thing, we must be open, honest and transparent. There is no other way.


8 Jan, 2018

2 thoughts on “Saying how things are

  1. I’m pretty transparent, except when there are lines I shouldn’t cross.

    Perhaps my gut instinct influences me more than my need to tell it like it is; of course, there’s always a time and place for that.

    1. Thanks Tim. The gut instinct is the most important, because it’s the gut that determines what we should say and how we should say it.

      I think more of us should work via the gut. If we did, we’d understand how best to communicate with others. Generally, I think it important we say how we feel and speak our own truth.

      It’s either not seen as politically correct, or were afraid of retaliation.

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