It’s because we care that we say what we feel: it’s usually the act, rather than the deed that gets us into trouble. Although we may get to say what we feel, others won’t admit they could have handled themselves better.
It’s also a shame that others aren’t honest with us when we come to say what we feel. When the other person goes on the defensive and makes the issue about us, getting where we want to be will be difficult. Being true to our feelings, to ourselves is something we must continue to do.
But for those who lack the courage or confidence to say what they feel, it’s something they must learn to overcome. In the long-term not saying what you feel, adds to anxiety and will create illness. There can be no peace in not saying what’s on your mind.
Anything unspoken will always bubble away below the surface, until eventually the pressure mounts, we lose our perspective and the truth is lost. If the truth isn’t lost and we’re upset, something will bleat out.
It’s always better to say something when things are clear and before our feelings take over. There is never a right time to speak out. What we say tends to rest on how the other person feels and where they are in their own personal space.