It’s because we care that we say what we feel, but it’s usually the act, rather than the deed that gets us into trouble. Although we may get to say what we feel, others won’t always admit they could have handled themselves better.
It’s also a shame that others aren’t always honest with us when it comes to us saying what we feel. When the other person goes on the defensive and makes the issue about us, getting where we want to be will always be slightly more difficult. But being true to our feelings, to ourselves is something we must continue to do.
But for those who lack the courage or confidence to say what they feel, perhaps it’s something they must learn to overcome. In the long-term not saying what we feel, adds to the anxiety we feel and will begin to create illness. There can be no emotional peace in not saying what’s on our mind.
Anything unspoken will always bubble away below the surface, until eventually the pressure mounts, we lose our perspective and what is the truth is lost. If the truth isn’t lost and we’re just upset, we may lose the ability to speak in a conciliatory and orderly fashion.
It’s always better to say something when things are clear and before our feelings take over. Sadly, there is never a right time to speak out. What we say tends to rest on how the other person feels and where they are in their own personal space.
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