We spend a lifetime looking at things in the same way, failing to see and learn new things. As the French Novelist Marcel Proust once said, “The real act of discovery consists not in finding new lands, but in seeing with new eyes.”
I think he had a point. We don’t always have to discover new landscapes to create new discoveries, we simply need to change the way we look at and think about things for us to see through new eyes. Once we start to begin to understand what the concept means, we’ll begin to see people and life differently.
Sadly, as is life we take the things we have for granted, we don’t stop to think about who and what is important, we become jaded. We’re short sighted in how we see our lives, our homes, each other, what we have, how we behave, how we could do better. As we go about life, we fail to see the bigger picture, of what all these things really mean and why we need to approach them all differently.
Instead, we tend to want to look at new landscapes, looking to something that will fill the gap on our contentment, away from ourselves; but we will continue to fail, without a better more balanced perspective. We need to see what we see with a new set of eyes so that we become more caring, more compassionate and more tolerant.
We need to see our lives differently. We need to see the people in our lives differently. We need to appreciate life and what people bring to the relationship. We’re all different, those differences must be accepted. As Thoreau once wrote also, “It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.” If we choose to see others through a set of new eyes, we will behave towards them differently.
When we see with new eyes, we will treat and see people differently, because we’ll feel different and because we will get a different, a better response back.