As children we never really take the time to think about ourselves, for some of us we’re too busy trying to find acceptance by those around us. Self-acceptance comes from learning to appreciate who we are, rather than concentrating on outward appearances.

Learning to appreciate who we are also helps with self-esteem. Society should play its part in helping us understand what being beautiful really means and encouraging us to look within ourselves first. Beauty really does start from within. What we portray on the inside, is much more important than what people see on the outside.

Now for the science bit

Our thoughts come from two parts of the brain. Our long-term thoughts and memories, good or bad memories are stored in the subconscious part of the brain. Our everyday thoughts (our doing thoughts) come from the conscious part of the brain.

As the years roll by, we begin to experience conflict because the subconscious part of the brain doesn’t know how to correspond with the conscious (thinking) part, so we end up dealing with two many negative issues from past situations. When the two parts of the brain begin to think the same way, self-acceptance becomes easier.

Affirmations help reinforce positivity by working with our subconscious thinking. Of course, becoming more positive will have have a knock on effect on how we feel about ourselves and self-acceptance is part of that.

Self-acceptance teaches us how to fit into our lives, on our own terms.

4 Aug, 2010

6 thoughts on “Self-acceptance/2

  1. I think self esteem issues are so dependent on what you are told as a child and growing up.

    I never felt good enough for my father and years ago stopped trying to please him because it was impossible. What ever I did was not good enough no matter how hard I tried.

    Now I let him do his own thing, if he needs help from me I will assist. Otherwise he does things his own way. That prevents conflicts and arguments. To this day I still have terrible self-esteem issues that I deal with on a daily basis because of my father.

    It is all about what the messages are that are playing inside your head. I try to change these to positive thoughts every day but some days that is difficult… and today is a difficult day but I will get through I always do.

    1. Randy you are absolutely right. Self-esteem issues do come from childhood, although I never truly believe anyone comes away from their childhood without any issues… and if they do they are very lucky.

  2. I studied a bit of what you talked about in a human psychology course I took a few quarters ago.

    I agree that self-acceptance is key. Many people don’t realize that. Personally, I think society plays a large role. People’s thinking today is much different even from a few years ago.

    1. LeAnna I think you are absolutely right and that society does play a large role, but I feel there aren’t enough of the right role models to show us how to live our lives better, because of the way they behave.

  3. I was picked on as a teenager by other teens real bad because I had large breasts, so I had a self esteem problem since I was 13 years old. I never really got over that and now that Ive lost the weight and am at a great weight I still critisise myself on the outside and I feel like I was always not good enough in my mothers eyes.

    I wasn’t as good as my sister who was always a straight A student and able to do everything and she still does it to this day. I feel so inferior to her. So I’m always trying to do better even though I’ve been a great nurse for almost 25 years now.

    Yeah I agree that it does stem from childhood. And learning to live with yourself and accept yourself is hard to do after you’ve been treated a certain way most of your life. We can learn though and it doesn’t hurt to surround ourselves with positive people. People who know what you’re like on the inside and encourage you.

    1. Lisa you said it yourself, you have been a great nurse for 25 years. It doesn’t matter that your sister got straight A’s, but she may never be the person that you have become. To be nurse you have to have compassion, kindness, tolerance, and good communication skills. Being a straight A student doesn’t necessarily give you all of that.

      Be happy with who you are and stop the comparisons. Trying to please your family, particularly your mum isn’t doing much for your own self-confidence. You’re as good as you want to be. Just let go, it’s time to start afresh.

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