Self-esteem issues

Self-esteem is a term used in Psychology to reflect a person’s overall evaluation or appraisal of his or her own self worth. Self-esteem encompasses a variety of emotions and beliefs in ones abilities.

Self-esteem will always arise when we begin to feel unworthy and it’s usually through an innate lack of emotional support. It’s the support network around us that helps build our confidence. Self-esteem gives us the opportunity to reflect on our values and how we see ourselves, our thoughts and feelings too as we go about our daily lives.

We know we have self-esteem when we can feel comfortable in our own skin, enough to to appreciate and respect ourselves and our values. But if we’re feeling inferior or inadequate, or if we’re struggling with confidence issues, we self-doubt and we’re critical, then we know we’re dealing with low self-esteem issues.

Because when we feel good about ourselves and have the confidence to match without the ego, we know we’re not dealing with self-esteem issues.


12 Aug, 2010

4 thoughts on “Self-esteem issues

  1. Very good information. I’ve suffered with low self esteem all my life. As a child and teenager I was riduculed by my peers due to being over weight and large breasted. And I compared myself to my sister all the time because she was mainly normal and suffered no illnesses. She made great grades and was very pretty and always got praise and recognition from my mother and it was like I was mediocrer. Plus I couldn’t go and do what the other kids did due to my illness and it has carried over to some extent to adulthood. I’m still trying to better myself (which isn’t a bad thing).I still feel inferior. And my mother knows how I feel and she just says I need to forget the past. Thats hard to do though. Lisa

    1. Lisa. I think we do tend to compare ourselves to our siblings when they seem to have everything, the looks, the brains etc. You have a long list of comparisons here, which I am sure at the time will have made you feel miserable. Not sure what your mother did to help you with your feelings. It sounds as though your feelings were completely overlooked.

      It’s fine for your mother to tell you to forget the past now, easier said than done, but the realities are that you will need to deal with your thoughts. Your mother knows how you feel, but have you had the conversation with her about her part in all of this? That will go some way to dealing with your past.

      There are things you can do to change the way you see yourself.

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