When behaviour creates problems and it begins to interfere with lives, it is a form of self-sabotage. When we look at what is happening around Covid-19, we can see self-sabotage patterns emerging.

Self-sabotage isn’t something we just inflict on ourselves. Institutions and organisations do it to themselves too. Although we don’t always connect with our intentions, we should do things that feed our soul, and hone-in-on the things that allow us to power through, so that we can feel differently about ourselves.

We have the choice to say, ‘I no longer want to feel, or be like this.’ We have the choice to feel good about ourselves, and have the choice to change how we feel about ourselves.

We also have the choice to stop blaming others for the way our lives turn out and for us to recognise we need to take and be in control of the way we want our lives to go. A healthy mind stops using self-sabotage as a means of controlling others.

The most common behaviours of self-sabotage are procrastination, comfort eating, self-medicating with drugs and alcohol, and forms of self-injury such as cutting, but like staying and being motivated is a choice, how we live our lives is also a choice.

We may not always connect with our vices or see they are a form of self-sabotage, primarily because we use some of them in our every day lives, so much so that they have become the norm.


We can change the way we live and feel about ourselves, about our lives. That just because we start one way, doesn’t mean we have to continue to live that way.

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15 Oct, 2021

4 thoughts on “Self-sabotage

  1. I can see why you have written this blog. In Covid-19 it seems we have all been free-falling for some time now.

    Through much confusion and the Government’s handling of Covid-19 in the UK, we have struggled and mentally continue to struggle with some of their decisions. The world looks and feels different now.

    I usually take things in my stride and have done since I was a small child, but I have found myself struggling also. It is easy to feel anxious and out of our depth here and in feeling those things, we turn inwards.

    You certainly make what we struggle with easier. Where you’re helping clear the fog for yourself, particularly on Covid-19, you do that for others also.

    1. Thanks, I agree. It is only when we look back that we see this. If Covid-19 is teaching us one thing, it is that we need to come together.

      I hate bringing any form of politics into my writing, but where I struggle to make sense of their decisions and it is beginning to affect my mental health, I will always write about it.

      Where we mentally struggle we have turned inwards and relied on our vices and that has had a knock on effect on our relationships too.

      The stats show that during the pandemic drinking consumption has increased. Alcohol sales has increased from 3% to 5% in the UK, Germany and the United States in 2020 compared to 2019. (Source:

  2. Self sabotage used to be my hobby, but once I stopped doing it so much, my life has gotten better. My parents were masters at it so it’s no wonder that I followed in their footsteps.

    In Covid-19 the way certain people are behaving right now is what I would call being a ‘rebel Without a clue,’ seeing as they are refusing to do the right thing even when it would save them from getting Covid.

    We can only hope that people will wise up before it’s too late.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, I wouldn’t be so hard on yourself. Childhood is very much the catalyst to how we will fair in our adult lives.

      Our parents are very much instrumental in how we will cope with our lives. The environment in which we grow is also the catalyst. You cannot be blamed for any of that. How we move forward is always up to us.

      According to news reports Coronaviruses have been around for centuries. I don’t know what’s happening in your neck of the woods, but here in the UK, restrictions have been lifted and people are getting back into their lives, pretty much ignoring the fact the virus is still out there.

      It is up to governments to keep provisions in place, provisions that protect and including the most vulnerable. People with a disability, are now locked in their homes because restrictions have been lifted. Masks in the UK should have been mandatory and the brakes applied to stop its spread.

      This is a world issue, governments and countries should also be working together. Individually, we also need to do what we can to protect ourselves, so that we also stop Covid-19 from spreading further.

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