Even though we all grow up with our own insecurities, it’s important to parent children in a way we would want to have been parented ourselves, even if that didn’t happen.
When we get the parenting thing wrong, history always repeats itself. As a parent and speaking for myself, most of us will try to give our children the emotional stability they need, so that their children don’t go through the same hardships and experiences as we have, or our parents before us.
Parenting is a journey, one that if taken, is taken with the right attitude. Being a parent isn’t something we’re born knowing, it’s something that gradually comes, but putting children first should be our first-priority, regardless of what’s gone on for us.
Parenting is also a balancing act, but we must also consider ourselves too so that we are better equipped to manage all the demands that children place on us, as well as being able to deal with all of our other responsibilities. Because children model their own lives through us, it’s important we get the parenting thing right.
Once we’re equipped to be better parents, children should go on to emulate those qualities in themselves. Children must come to understand that parents still need to attend to their own needs. As a parent that doesn’t make us selfish, it just makes us a better more rounded parent with a little more tolerance the other end.
Finding time for ourselves gives us emotional stability and more energy to go back in and be a parent. It also means we’ll have more patience and compassion to do the job. We should want to strive to be better people and better parents, through nourishing and valuing ourselves. Taking time out for ourselves, means we care enough to want to get the parenting thing right.
We all need time to ourselves. When we take too much time for ourselves that’s when we become selfish, but taking time out for ourselves once in a while, means we will have more chance of getting the parenting thing right.