Serenity explained

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Reinhold Niebuhr.

I absolutely love this quote because it not only brings about an understanding about our lives and how we should try to handle things, but it also stresses the importance of us finding peace on the things we cannot change, whilst finding the strength to deal with the things that we know we can deal with.

To bring about any understanding isn’t easy, but when we explore our lives beyond what we already outwardly know and begin to understand, we will always come to know of the things we can change and the things we can’t.


20 Apr, 2015

6 thoughts on “Serenity explained

  1. Serenity isn’t something I know a lot about as I didn’t ever have a lot of it in my life. I’m very familiar with the “Serenity Prayer,” from being in a 12 Step program. One of the hardest parts was learning the difference between what I could change and what I couldn’t.

    I have lived with so much chaos in my life because I just couldn’t accept there were things I couldn’t change, like the past! I also had to figure it out on my own that just because I had to accept something as the way it was, didn’t mean I had to like it.

    I’m not really expecting to have serenity in my life but it would be nice to at least be comfortable in my own skin.

    1. Like you Randy, I’ve also lived without serenity in my life, but through those times I was determined to make sure I brought about serenity through my own understanding of the things I could and couldn’t change. It took me a while though. I just wasn’t getting it.

      Eventually the things I could change I changed and the things I couldn’t change I found a resolve on so that I brought a little bit of peace back into my life. It’s not easy of course, but the alternative was living with constant stress and illness and I didn’t want to do that either.

      As you say in your response here, it’s not always easy to know how to change things or easy to learn to live with the things we can’t change, but through our experiences over time, we get the general idea, which eventually helps us work out the rest.

  2. Couldn’t sleep at all last night, mind working overtime about nothing. So after reading this blog this morning, I walked a couple of miles and thought about Serenity Explained and it made a difference.

    Thank you for the wake up call.

  3. I like this quote, too. It reminds of how I struggled to accept my disability when growing up. It was difficult to do so when people around me didn’t. People used to tell me to pray with all my heart so I could be healed or they they thought if I exercised hard I would get strong enough to walk without crutches.

    It took me a while to accept the fact that I will have CP for the rest of my life. I can’t change that reality, but I can change my attitude toward it.

    1. I can resonate with you. My mum used to tell me that I couldn’t have a pretty face without a pretty leg. That was her way of telling me I needed to exercise. I have to say people’s ignorance at that time around what you and I had to deal with was culpable. I’m sorry you had to go through that too.

      Whilst I was too young to understand her logic that seemed fine, but there was a time not too long after that where I began to question her thoughts around her sentiments and I became very disillusioned as a result.

      Whilst my mum’s sentiments were kind and in her own way she was trying to help, she didn’t want to know or learn about what was actually wrong with me, but still wanted me to exercise, which I find quite bizarre.

      I think never knowing I had CP meant it would take me longer to accept the fact that I will have CP for the rest of my life, but you’re right we can change our attitude towards it and I need to make that happen. Your response helps, thank you Maria.

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