The relationship we have with ourselves sets the tone we have with others and is the manner in which we will conduct ourselves. We don’t look at how we are, or how our past shapes the person we become. Instead, we base our relationship on our experiences and not on ourselves.
So, where we have been neglected, we will neglect ourselves and will go on to neglect others without realising that’s what we’re doing. Where we have been abused, we will unconsciously abuse others. But how we set the tone, is how we will continue to treat others. We must change our unconscious patterns. If our relationship starts one way it will continue the same way.
All relationships must include, respect patience and tolerance. If you let a person get away with treating you less than you deserve, their treatment of you will continue.
As we show respect, others must too. We must set personal boundaries that help identify reasonable and permissible ways for others to behave towards us and how we respond when someone oversteps the mark.
It’s sad that the tone set in relationships is often below what it should be. We only have to look out into the world, through the media to understand.
We must want to do better and set the bar higher.