The relationship we have with ourselves sets the tone we have with others and is the manner in which we will conduct ourselves. We don’t look at how we are, or how our past shapes the person we become. Instead, we base our relationship on our experiences and not on ourselves.
So, where we have been neglected, we will go on to unconsciously neglect others without understanding that’s what we’re doing. Where we have been abused, we will continue to abuse others. How we initially set the tone, is how we will continue to set the tone. We must change our unconscious thinking if we want to change our relationships.
All relationships must include, respect patience and tolerance. If you let a person get away with treating you less than you deserve, their treatment of you will continue. As we show respect, others must too.
We must set personal boundaries that help identify reasonable and permissible ways for others to behave towards us and how we respond when someone oversteps the mark. It’s sad that the tone set in relationships is often below what it should be. We only have to look out into the world, through the media to understand.
We must want to do better and set the bar higher.