Having positive role models when we’re children is the key to an unwanted inner critic, but in times of continual stress and negativity, sadly it’s easy to see why we have it.
The first step of us being able to handle our inner critic is to become aware of our inner voice and how it operates. Ever since I was a small child, I’ve always had difficulty in moving away from mine. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t find a way to shift the voice in my head. It didn’t help living with negativity and abuse.
It’s that little voice that talks back at us when the mind is still that criticises, no matter how hard we try to silence it. It’s the harsh criticisms, the putdowns, telling us we’re not good enough.
When a parent continually engages in putdowns and retributions towards their child, that child’s inner critic will become relentless and unkind. It becomes a feeding ground for how we already feel about ourselves. Our inner critic if not dealt with, can leave us anxious, irritable and upset.
Whilst our early attitudes, beliefs and behaviours that we’re exposed to affect how we see ourselves initially, it’s the rejections that interfere with our self-perception that have an effect on the way we see ourselves and others.
It is those impressions that form the critical attitudes that become the voices in our heads. Of course, once we’re aware of our inner critic, we can work to challenge and silence it, by making a few personal changes to our lifestyle.
I am hoping my writing about our inner critic, will help me get rid of mine.