Staying positive through illness

3 Oct 2010

How do we stay positive through illness? Through understanding our illness, I believe we can. It’s important to be and stay positive. I tend to buy into ‘the cup’s half full philosophy.’

How many of us equate stress, or our own mortality through an illness of a loved one? When my mother was ill, I sat with her, then a thought came into my mind. That could be me in 15 to 20 years. At the time I didn’t know I had Cerebral Palsy, but it opened my eyes to what I needed to do to find out about what I had been dealing with, but it would have been easy to spiral into negativity.

I know that although my mum was always so positive, she did have another side to her; where she would carry too much emotional stress and that caused her to get ill. Although I had been living with not knowing I had Cerebral Palsy for 46 years, I remained upbeat and positive. But it was watching mum work through her illness that opened my eyes.

It’s important to stay positive through illness. We must also deal with stress, so that we prevent illness. My mum showed me through her illness, that no matter how positive we are, we must continue to deal with stress.

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  1. Lisa Cyr 03. Oct, 2010 at 12:48 pm #

    I try to stay positive. I also encourage others to be positive. I try not to let things get to me but sometimes it’s hard, especially when I’m in pain and can’t do anything about it, when nothing works or helps.

    I usually push through it by doing something that gets my mind off of it. Am I making sense? And there are days when I’ve got to a tolerable level and others bring me back down. It’s like they know and say “okay how can I make her feel bad?”

    Going through my mother’s battle with cancer brings some perspective to light. I too think that could be me in 10 to 20 years or sooner, if I don’t start living and doing better. I get so down at times because of my problems, usually the lack of energy. But then I think I could be worse off. I could be in bed and not able to do anything.

    • Ilana 03. Oct, 2010 at 12:58 pm #

      Lisa you do make sense, but where you say you reach a tolerable level, maybe you’re not quite there, because people bring you down so easily without having to try. Take stock of those who bring you down. I did and I have never been happier.

      Living with someone who is terminally ill, does make us see our own mortality, but whilst we see it we also have to make those changes so that we live a more positive, productive life while we have our health. You have answered a lot of your own thoughts. You know what changes you need to make, take your first steps to work through those. Feel better soon.

  2. Randy Darling 03. Oct, 2010 at 1:34 pm #

    When my mother was ill, she enjoyed sitting on a swing my brother had bought her in the summer. I used to sit with her and I realize now how special those times were. Quiet times just her and me.

    Thankfully she was able to enjoy the summer before the end came. We were all thankful for that. With my mother’s illness I always thought as long as there was life there was hope.

    We had her for longer than the doctors said. In the end it was pain free for her, which is the way my father and I wanted her to go.

    • Ilana 03. Oct, 2010 at 1:50 pm #

      Randy, I’m sure your mother will know of those special times she had with you, as you have of those memories now. I am sure they will have helped her work through her illness.

      I know my mother was very positive around people who were positive. Positivity helped her fight another day. She stayed positive and focused far longer than the doctors told her she would.

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