Strength in our differences

Does being different make us strong? There is no right or wrong answer. Each case is different. As a child, I knew I was different because there were physical things I struggled with, but not knowing and my ability not to dwell on my problems, made me emotionally strong.

The not knowing didn’t help me with my anger, but it did make me even more determined to find out what was wrong. So long as we’re not emotionally being pulled down and mocked for what we deal with, I believe we all have the ability to pull ourselves back up again.

It’s the continual emotional negative patterns that play out in our heads that continue to pull us down. If we can look at it another way, being different makes us unique, one of a kind. I think if we can, we must learn to embrace that concept.

3 Aug, 2015

8 thoughts on “Strength in our differences

  1. Being different has the potential to make us stronger, but unfortunately it also has the potential to ruin lives because of the way people are prejudiced to difference. We are all unique and therefore we are all different.

    People need to stop thinking that some of us are more different than others.

    1. I think you’re right, but I can’t help but think it’s more about a lack of tolerance, particularly if we’re dealing with our own stress.

      I’m not sure how many people are really bothered to support those who are struggle with what they have to deal with, particularly when it comes to any form of disability. On our own and with family support I believe we can stay strong.

      It’s often negativity coming from other people that weighs us down.

  2. Those of us who stand on the wrong side of privilege know very well that our differences require a unique set of strengths. We must be watchful as a midnight owl and stronger than we’d like to be.

    Being marginalized because we are different is a lifelong journey and we’re stronger because of it. But if the privileged would hear what we are seeing maybe the world would be a better place.

    1. I think you’re right Tim. It’s the privileged that give the non-privileged a bad name. The non-privileged tend to understand enough about their own lives to know what it feels like to live without privilege, so always behave appropriately, in my opinion. They don’t take anything for granted.

      We just have to tune in to reality television to watch all of this play out. Unfortunately it seems to have become the norm. In my own case, it is being different that has allowed me to stand out, but in a way that is totally appropriate.

  3. When I was younger, I hated that my disability made me feel different. I used to ask God, why me? The lack of support at home was a big factor as to why I felt that way.

    I believe I have to be strong in order not to let my disability defeat me. It would be easy to just wallow in self-pity, but that’s not an option for me.

    1. Thanks Maria. Because I analysed my thoughts so much as a child, I don’t remember going through that phase with my Cerebral Palsy, but appreciate what you’re saying. Without the support it would be easy to feel hate for what we deal with.

      I truly believe that you’re an amazing role model for your children and other people Maria. A good example to follow. You haven’t thrown in the towel with what you deal with… someone else might have given up already.

  4. I have always felt like I was ‘different’ in so many ways and I could never quite pin down why I felt that way. From the time I can remember, I haven’t felt like I was really a part of this world or even meant to be here!

    I’ve spent the majority of my life just trying to fit in, with very limited success. People can’t comprehend what it’s like to have this feeling your whole life when they have had such normal lives. It angers me to no end, when people say things like, ‘just get over it,’ considering they’re usually the ones who haven’t had a hard day in their life!

    It took me a long time to accept that I am different and that there are others out there who can identify with my struggles. There is strength in numbers so actually letting my guard down and getting to know some of these people has been a miracle in my life.

    I have 2 choices, ultimately I Wallow in my pity pot complaining about how bad my life is, or learn to live with the cards I have been dealt. I have watched so many people choose the first option and wonder why their life sucks so much!

    My parents lived that way, so it’s no wonder we all picked up those behaviors. We were kept isolated and brainwashed from an early age, so we never had much of a chance to learn how to connect with people. The reality is that other people had dysfunctional families but they learned how to live their lives on their own terms.

    It took me a very long time to believe that I wasn’t as different as I thought and there were others who could understand what language I was speaking. I just want to live my life and not feel so guilty about existing when there must be a reason!

    1. Thanks Randy. It sounds like you have drawn strength from sharing your experiences with other people who identify with your struggles and I think that helps.

      You’re absolutely right when you say you can either wallow in self-pity or use your experiences to change certain aspects of your life. Wallowing in self-pity just makes us feel worse about what we have to deal with and personally I’ve never seen a point to it, or we can use our experiences to change certain aspects of our life around.

      Feeling different makes us unique although it can make us feel isolated, but let’s choose to embrace it instead.

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