Emotionally, we will always stay stuck when the old patterns stick. As we are predisposed to behave in certain ways, our current experiences will continue to trigger the old patterns. Unfortunately, as we go about our daily lives, we continue to perpetuate the old predisposed patterns set from our past.
We need to address those issues and let go, otherwise our lives can never change. To change emotionally we must fully live in the present. When we unconsciously fleet between the present and the past, we will always stay stuck. To stay in the present we must identify the triggers that hold us back and deal with them.
We must make ourselves aware of the events that trigger those strong emotional responses, so that we understand the bigger picture on our triggers. Once we identify why something happens in the way it does and we begin to understand everyone’s part, we’re more likely to want to move on. As we begin to work through similar events in the same way, we’ll understand more of why we need to change.
I know that when I came to understand that I wasn’t responsible for my own issues in my formative years and that I couldn’t do anything to change them, I found it easier to let go. We need to recognise and take responsibility for our triggers, to understand why they become triggers in the first place, then let go.
We inevitably become responsible for our triggers, whether we’re initially responsible for those or not. It is our choice when we choose to remain stuck in old patterns.