Taking away negativity is an art form, not something we easily achieve, particularly if we’re in company and those people are being negative. In the wrong company, it’s easy to feel drained and tired.
My suggestions below help me:
Know your conversation
Stop discussing anything personal or taking part in any conversation that would seem diverse to someone else. If the person you are talking to tries to engage you in conversation that could turn into a full-blown argument, leave the room, or change the subject if you can’t go elsewhere. If other people are with you, it may be more difficult to leave, but it would also be difficult for others to continue with the conversation.
Being able to communicate assertively is the key. We mustn’t accept another person’s abusive behaviour, and like children, adults need boundaries too. Establish your boundaries so that others can’t talk in a way that you feel is inappropriate.
Talk to positive people
If you are speaking to more than one person in a group situation, concentrate your energies on those in the group who you see as positive. That way you won’t come away from the conversation feeling drained. Also, be careful who you take into your confidence. If the person you’re speaking to generally gossips, make sure you keep anything you want to keep private to yourself.
Choose trustworthy and reliable friends
It is important to make sure your friends are good listeners, trustworthy and reliable. Being able to rely on those who have proved themselves is important.
It’s important we accept the way people are, but they must do the same with us. If friends don’t have compassion or aren’t attentive, there’s no point in wishing they were. We must either accept they’re not or choose to see less of them. We cannot change others, we can only change the way we perceive and interact with them.
But it is possible for us to bring about change through our own personal beliefs. When in other people’s company, we must try to work on the way we handle ourselves. Trying to persuade others to believe what we believe only invites criticism and defensive attitudes.
Finally, when you’re out of their company and if you’re still dealing with negative thoughts and feelings, write your feelings down.