Taking away negativity is an art form, not something we easily achieve, particularly if we’re in company and those people are being negative. How easy it would be to feel drained and tired.
My suggestions below help me:
Know your conversation
Stop discussing anything personal, or conversation that would seem diverse to someone else. If the person you are talking to tries to engage you in conversation that could turn into a full-blown argument, leave the room or change the subject if you can’t leave the room. If other people are with you, it may be more difficult to leave the room, but it would also be difficult for others to continue with the conversation.
Being able to communicate assertively is the key. We mustn’t accept another person’s abusive behaviour and like children have boundaries, adults need boundaries too. Establish your boundaries so that others can’t talk in a way that you feel is inappropriate.
Talk to positive people
If you are speaking to more than one person in a group situation, concentrate your energies on those in the group who you see as positive. That way you won’t come away from the conversation feeling drained. Also, be careful who you take into your confidence. If the person you’re speaking to generally gossips, make sure you keep anything you think private to yourself.
Choose trustworthy and reliable
It is important to make sure your friends are good listeners, trustworthy and reliable. Being able to rely on those who have proved themselves is important.
It is important to accept the way people are, but they must do the same with us. If friends don’t have compassion or aren’t attentive, there’s no point in wishing they were. We must either accept they’re not or choose to see less of them. Sadly, we cannot change others, we can only change the way we perceive and dialogue with them.
But it is possible for us to bring about change through our own personal beliefs. When in other people’s company, try to work on the way you handle yourself. Trying to change others to believe what we believe, only invites criticism and defensive attitudes.
Finally, when you’re out of their company and if you’re still dealing with negative thoughts and feelings, write your feelings down.