We resist the very things that will help us grow and move forward with our lives. We control and box the things we don’t want to deal with in the hope that those things will stay boxed. It’s almost become an art form because we do it so well.
We resist, to attempt to control anything painful. As we start to exhibit signs of anxiety from resisting the very things we need to deal with, we will continue to ignore the signs, because we fail to consciously pay attention to them.
The irony is that the more we push and bury issues underground, the more we will be forced to deal with those issues. We resist until we can’t resist anymore, but issues don’t go away until we deal with them. We resist because we’re afraid to deal with the inevitable.
We resist because we’re afraid to have a go, we’re afraid to let go. The more we resist, the more frequent the things we resist become.
The art of resisting
Resisting anything is part of our false sense of reality. Most things seem out of our reach until we bring those things back into our reach again. We resist, we shy away from the very things we need to work on.
When we choose not to move beyond the things we resist, we choose not to come to terms with those things. We resist because we’ve already told ourselves that what we’re trying to achieve is totally out of reach.
That’s not true. Our first instinct is to avoid the more hurtful aspects of our experiences. By avoiding the very things we resist against we’re hurting ourselves more because we will always have to face those things.