We resist the very things that will help us grow and move forward with our lives. We control and box the things we don’t want to deal with in the hope that those things will stay boxed. It’s almost become an art form because we do it so well.
We resist, to attempt to control anything painful, but all that does is reinforce what we know we’ll have to deal with in the longer term. As we start to exhibit signs of anxiety from resisting the very things we need to deal with, we will continue to ignore the signs, because we fail to consciously pay attention to them.
The irony is that more we push and bury issues underground, the more we will be forced to deal with those issues eventually. We resist until we can’t resist anymore, but things generally don’t go away until we deal with them. The more we reinforce positivity, the more we will let go of resisting. We resist because we’re afraid to deal with the inevitable.
We resist because we’re afraid to have a go, we’re afraid to let go. The irony is that although we’re afraid, when we eventually manage to let go, we will see there was absolutely nothing to be afraid of. The more we resist, the more frequent the things we resist become.
The art of resisting
Resisting anything is part of our subjective (faulty) sense of reality. Most things seem out of our reach until we bring those things back into our reach again. Our experiences, together with our stories from our unconscious, continue to feed our conscious, which tell us we shouldn’t try.
We resist, we shy away from the very things we need to work on. We resent those things, and do battle with them. When we concentrate on not moving beyond the things we resist, we choose not to come to terms with those things. We resist because we’ve already told ourselves that what we’re trying to achieve is totally out of reach.
That’s not so, or even true. Our first instinct is to avoid the more hurtful aspects of our experiences. The sad reality is that by avoiding the very things we resist against we’re hurting ourselves more because we will always have to face those things.