The best of intentions

20 Dec 2016

It would be lovely to think we live in a world where we all have the best of intentions. That we do things because we’re well meaning that unconditionally we want the best for each other, without a hidden agenda.

Unfortunately, life doesn’t work like that. Another person’s intentions may not always be as honourable as ours. But perhaps it’s not as black and white as that. That individuals start with good intentions, but may fail to act or follow those intentions through. Perhaps the lack of intention is due to procrastination. Where they are personally.

Good intentions will always be meaningless, unless those intentions are followed through in a way that benefits others. Individually our wants and needs are different, so our intentions will be different. I have learned over the years that intentions are sometimes flawed, but that it’s up to us, we’re in the driving seat as far as intentions are concerned.

Our intentions and how we manifest our intentions are just as important as how the object of our intentions are received by others. We must treat others how we wish to be treated, but the reality is we often expect others to treat us better than we unconsciously treat them.

But not everyone will have good intentions. A narcissist will want the best treatment from others, but won’t accept that he needs to treat others with good intentions, but would soon complain if we didn’t. Often an agenda and insecurities play a big part on our good intentions.

We must always do and give of our best, because when we are no longer here, we will always be remembered by our intentions and whether they were good or not.

4 Responses to “The best of intentions”

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  1. Brad 20. Dec, 2016 at 6:33 pm #

    As you have rightly said before, ‘actions speak louder than words.’ It’s all well and good having good intentions but that actually doesn’t mean very much unless those intentions are acted upon.

    I can think of someone who I believe is a Narcissist, who has already proven we can’t believe a word he says and that’s before he’s taken office.

    • Ilana 20. Dec, 2016 at 6:40 pm #

      Thank you, yes they certainly do. Words are meaningless unless we choose to act on them, then we are judged by them.

      I believe in giving people a chance to prove their critics wrong. Innocent until proven guilty, although I can understand why you have your concerns already.

      As the world watches, all we can do is sit back, wait and watch. Nothing more can be done at this time.

  2. Tim 20. Dec, 2016 at 8:28 pm #

    There’s a cloud of low expectations and low sunlight hanging over our heads and we’re forgetting all the nice little things we do for the general good; it’s like we’re approaching the outside of a dangerous circle.

    But we still have powerful voices that drown out asinine intentions. The CP Diary is one of those voices.

    • Ilana 20. Dec, 2016 at 9:18 pm #

      Thanks Tim. Yes, I quite agree and feel it’s important we drown out those voices so we get to lead a life where we can at least function at our own pace, calmly.

      Over time The CP Diary has become a place, a sanctuary, a place to say what we feel in a compassionate, caring, non-judgmental way and with the best of intentions at the forefront of our responses.

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