The reality is that because we don’t consciously see or equate people’s bad behaviour with abuse, we continually accept the behaviour we’re presented with.
But being aware of what is considered abuse, is the first step to understanding what abuse looks like. A person’s undertones, being intimidating and where they continue to make us feel nervous and scared: that is abuse.
Anyone who uses violence or lashes out, is likely to use all or some of what I have outlined above, to create feelings of fear. When the waters become calm again, we will continue to live with the scars. Even by the time calm has been restored and we’re beginning to feel normal again, the abuse may start all over again.
Where verbal abuse may continue as verbal abuse, it can escalate into other forms of abuse, such as sexual or physical abuse, together with abusive undertones it develops a stronger emotional hold on the victim.