The most obvious way of others apportioning blame is us being told we are to blame. Blame isn’t always down to us, but directed at us. It’s their guilt enforced on us. It’s in families, in society, in the wider world.
The expression ‘elephant in the room’ refers to a problem, a topic of conversation in the past that no one wants to talk about, or wants to discuss because it’s uncomfortable, is part of the cycle of blame.
With the ‘elephant in the room’ you don’t have to be in the same house to feel the tension. But it’s not our uncomfortable. It is important others understand the reasoning behind our decisions.
It depends on the subject, not all subjects are political, or inflammatory. But people will always have to make decisions that others may not be happy or comfortable with, but as my story shows, the decisions we make are usually for good reason.
We must own what’s ours and take responsibility for what we put out there. We must understand our lives, we must accept we are to blame when we are to blame, instead of assigning blame on others all the time.
It’s allowing ourselves to heal and moving away from the cycle of blame.