The Golden Rule & success

29 Sep 2016

The Golden Rule or law of reciprocity is something our parents would quote, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

Perhaps the rule was based on the universal principles that what you put out there you get back. The principle of treating anyone, as you would wish to be treated yourself, is very much how it should work, regardless of who quotes it.

Success is never just about us. To be successful requires others, in other words we must help others reach their dreams, if we are to reach ours. We must learn to teach, listen and be conciliatory towards others. If we concentrate on our own success, rather than think about or want to help others with theirs, we may never be successful.

Success comes back when we give of ourselves, in a way that motivates others to want to help us. If we want to reach and attain top positions, we must have a willingness to help others achieve their goals. Being successful isn’t just about what we want.

Putting out kindness, being helpful and conciliatory and helping others, will contribute to us becoming successful.

10 Responses to “The Golden Rule & success”

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  1. Bonnie Johns 29. Sep, 2016 at 3:41 pm #

    I love this! It is such an important lesson to humanity that unfortunately some people don’t or won’t grasp.

    For the rest of us, I’d like to think that we should take the Golden Rule and run with it! When we help others, it is very rewarding even if those we help aren’t appreciative; because we get a sense of self-worth, especially if we aren’t expecting anything in return.

    • Ilana 29. Sep, 2016 at 4:01 pm #

      Thanks Bonnie. Yes, I believe The Golden Rule is a part of humanity too; is there for a reason and must be something we all learn to embrace if life, is going to run smoothly and if we are to have a chance of being successful.

      Being kind, conciliatory and helpful is something we should all want to be. We should want to help others, and for others to help us; even if we get nothing back in return.

      As you say helping others out can give us a sense of self-worth, particularly if we aren’t expecting anything back in return.

  2. Brad 29. Sep, 2016 at 4:10 pm #

    In a world where so many people are self absorbed and out for what they can get, we could do with a lesson in why we should all help each other. Helping others helps us. How difficult is that?

    • Ilana 29. Sep, 2016 at 4:20 pm #

      Thanks. Yes, not difficult to do… just self-absorbed. You’re right.

  3. Tim 29. Sep, 2016 at 5:53 pm #

    The universe wants to know what we’re up to, so it records our entire history until we’re old and can barely walk, then it decides if we’re successful or not.

    Of course, that all depends on how we treat other people, regardless of our trivial versions of success; stew in the irony of that.

    • Ilana 29. Sep, 2016 at 6:48 pm #

      I absolutely agree. The Universe knows us already. From the minute we’re born our life is recorded by the Universe. We’re under scrutiny for any wrongdoings; including how we treat other people.

      We will always see our lives the way we choose to see it, but that won’t necessarily concur with how the Universe sees it.

      I believe that as long as we do right by others, we have nothing to worry about and we can be successful.

  4. Randy 30. Sep, 2016 at 2:19 pm #

    This has been one that I have had a hard time with, since I was forced to be nice to people as a kid who I really didn’t like.

    Parents don’t usually make their kids do this, but mine were extremely self-absorbed and knew they could use us to get what they wanted. This created a pattern in my life, where I wouldn’t always catch on to what people were really like, until it was too late.

    I’m having to try to remember that it’s okay to be nice, but I also have the right to not allow them to take advantage of me if that’s what they plan on doing. I actually have the right to say No, without needing to feel guilty about it.

    I’m not all that familiar with the idea of success, but I would at least like to be able to feel like I have done some good in my life.

    • Ilana 30. Sep, 2016 at 2:32 pm #

      Thanks Randy, yes that generation of parent seemed to parent that way. I used to have to call family friends who clearly weren’t my aunt or uncle, aunt and uncle. It’s what we were told to do.

      Our parents’ friends became ours, even though under other circumstances we wouldn’t choose to have them as our own friends. I can’t say I am familiar with success either, but success is different to different people.

      Just getting up on a morning can be someone’s success story. I think getting through our lives, being able to understand how things work out and why is success in itself.

      Please don’t be too hard on yourself. You’re a good guy, having had to live a difficult life. You have done some good in your life. Your daughter is a success story.

  5. Bonnie Johns 30. Sep, 2016 at 4:15 pm #

    I agree with everyone. Like Morgan Freeman says “imagine what the world would be like if 6 billion people were respectful and helped each other.”

    What a peaceful world this would be.

    • Ilana 30. Sep, 2016 at 4:41 pm #

      Thanks Bonnie, your last sentence sums up your response beautifully.

      How incredibly special the world would be with so many wonderful people who not only were respectful but supported each other.

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