There is a TV programme in the UK called ‘The Undateables,’ which is centred around those people who are mentally and physical disabled, who get to go out on dates like the rest of us and they’re then renamed ‘The Dateables.’
I just love the sentiment behind the programme. I love the fact that those living with a mental or physical disability, get to date other people like themselves who struggle with the same or different conditions that primarily stops them from leading a normal life.
I love the naivety and often find myself resonating with that side of their personalities. I love the banter and the innocence between them and how over time through their challenges they sometimes a mutual understanding and love.
Of course, they don’t struggle in the same way ordinary people do, but through more simplistic struggles, those struggles will sometimes seem massive. As the show takes us through their relationships, the viewer is shown a better way to be.
Although the show isn’t wittingly sending a message out to its audience, you can’t help but think about their struggles sympathetically. And where people with disabilities have the right help, love and support, there is always hope.
But as soon as the cameras stop rolling, in our busy lives, we forget what people with a disability continue to go through. Perhaps, therefore, we need to be more empathetic, have more compassion and show more tolerance.
The world needs more of the right attitudes towards those dealing with a disability. It’s not enough to just talk about it, without changing attitudes and perceptions.