The value of listening

The art of our success isn’t achieved by speaking, but by our ability to listen. While some people may be impressed by how well we speak, more will be impressed by how well we listen. Perhaps we need to learn to talk less and listen more. The best outcomes are governed by knowledge and wisdom and by our ability to intuitively listen.

Society’s great leaders are adept at reading between the lines. They possess the ability to listen to what’s not being said whilst filling in the gaps that need to be filled. As a society we seem to be in such a rush to communicate what we have on our minds, instead of listening to what others may say. We can learn a lot by what others say.

The value on being able to listen is the difference between succeeding and failing. We mustn’t be fooled into thinking it’s more important to be heard, than it is being heard. Good communication is looking for understanding before we look to be understood. When we fail to understand, we will fail to be understood.

We need to learn to listen, instead of wanting to be heard. Communication isn’t a one-way street. Constantly wanting to broadcast our message will not have the same result as if we listen and engage in conversation. Good communication takes place around a conversation, not through a lecture.

Finally, the best outcome and successful situations will always come from our ability to listen intuitively and concentrate on our listening. Putting those listening skills into practice, will help us achieve success.


8 Apr, 2016

2 thoughts on “The value of listening

  1. I have always been a good listener but never very good at speaking. I grew up in a world where I was forced to listen to my parents’ tales of woe while they never really payed much attention to what I had to say!

    The only time they ever really listened was when they were willing to give me something in exchange for doing what they wanted. It was always very confusing when I had to deal with other people, since they would ask my opinion about something and I had no idea what to say.

    My opinions never mattered much and my parents were usually good at telling me what it was supposed to be. I don’t have a problem with listening to people, but it’s more that I have to learn it’s OK to actually say what I want to say!

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes there’s definitely an art to listening. We can listen and not hear; or listen and hear what we want to get from the conversation; or listen intuitively and come away with a better understanding.

      There is so much value to listening and listening well. Unfortunately our parents’ generation weren’t great at listening. It’s just the way it was.

      But I would say that it’s more thank okay for you to say what you want and need to say.

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