We try to please others because we have to, or we have no choice. We don’t stop to think about ourselves and whether the people we’re trying to please, will reciprocate.
When we go out of our way to please others, we fail to please or think about ourselves. Expectations from others will always be there. It took me many years to see that myself, but compromises have to be made. I’m not sure how many of us learn to compromise.
When you give in to someone or something, you emotionally disconnect from yourself, because you’re pleasing other people instead. For example, when you’re working you want to do a good job. You want your employer to be happy with the job you’re doing, you’re looking for acceptance that what you’re doing is exactly what they want. You aim to please.
I know because I did the same thing and in the longer term it doesn’t work. When it becomes clear that others are taking advantage, then it’s probably time to take control back.
Although it took me many years to understand the correlation, I believe that compromise has to be met and made on both sides.