Working on our thoughts

When you say things that others think are wholly inappropriate, but don’t seem inappropriate to us, that is until we’ve gone away and thought about what we’ve said. But it’s virtually impossible to retract what we say and how we say it. Thinking about what we say, before we say it, means we’ll spend less time having to try to explain ourselves.

8 Feb, 2015

8 thoughts on “Working on our thoughts

  1. I have learned over the years to curb my enthusiasm for speaking before thinking, largely as not everyone I meet appreciates my keen sense of humour.

    I certainly have to explain myself much less as a result, so I have to say I agree with this post wholeheartedly.

    1. I wonder how much is enthusiasm or how much of what you say is not considered appropriate by other people. Generally speaking, if our circumstances were any different and we lived amongst people who shared the same humour, I am sure what you said would fit in nicely.

      Because we’re not the same people, we have to be careful on what we say and how we say things. I believe that’s right in all situations. We must make ourselves aware.

  2. Good point. What I consider friendly banter and enthusiastic humour isn’t always received in that manner, so I’ve learned to ‘watch what I say.’

    1. Thank you. I am sure others you come into contact will be grateful.

      It’s easy to fall back into bad habits. The art of anything is to make sure we don’t keep slipping back into the way we were.

  3. I don’t do it, but my daughter will say the most inappropriate things sometimes.

    It’s like she can’t stop herself from blabbing out something that shouldn’t be said or talked about, and when others are talking about one thing she will inappropriately say something that has nothing to do with what is being discussed.

    1. Thanks Lisa. That’s good. I remember being taught the fundamentals, but it’s definitely a learning curve; knowing when it’s appropriate to say something and it’s that part which isn’t always so easy that we don’t always get right.

      We can be taught, but even when we’re taught it’s not something we will all do. If it has been taught; I believe it is always something we can and will go back to as we get older and become more mature.

      It’s our age that often let’s us down.

  4. I try to see and think before I speak; I just may see something not worthy of the effort.

    But I’m normally a very quiet man, so thinking before speaking comes fairly natural to me; but I have been known to put my foot in my mouth from time to time.

    1. Thanks Tim. Yes I agree with you that when we don’t think before we speak it’s easy to put our foot in our mouths.

      I am sure I was taught to think before I spoke when I was growing up, but I’m not sure there was much of that going on. I was too angry to care. In my twenties I began to change things.

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