To forgive is to understand

14 Dec 2016

Our ability to see beyond hurt encourages emotional growth. When we understand other people’s actions that causes us to feel pain, it allows us to think about letting go of pain.

We may never go on to experience life in its entirety, if we don’t let go of the resentment we feel. It’s the act of letting go that allows us to make space for bigger things. It’s easy to hold on to resentment, when others who have hurt us don’t express remorse or accept what they’ve done.

That is something for them to change, or for them to accept that things may never come good with those they’ve hurt. Although the relationship can never change unless they change it, when we carry the burden, we’re choosing to cause ourselves more pain. By not inflicting our hurt on anyone else, we start to encourage a shift in something much bigger in ourselves.

Forgiveness is understanding. We can forgive, but never forget. A statement that encourages emotional growth and results in our ability to simply let go.

4 Responses to “To forgive is to understand”

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  1. Tim 14. Dec, 2016 at 6:14 pm #

    You’re better off giving a person time to reckon with their own soul. If they don’t have a soul, you’re wasting your time being hurt.

    But I forgive quicker when I know Karma is visiting the person that hurt me.

    • Ilana 14. Dec, 2016 at 7:18 pm #

      Thanks Tim. Yes, quite. I believe though that Karma does visit, but not when we would like it to. Before it does, we tend to give up thinking it will and that in itself reinforces where we are.

      I think we all have a soul, but the problem is the majority of us aren’t connected to it; others just don’t care. It’s harder to forgive than it is to find a place, but if we’re intending to find a place that still takes time.

  2. Brad 14. Dec, 2016 at 7:25 pm #

    I’m not the quickest at forgiving, although I understand the importance of forgiving and how much more at ease we’ll be through being able to forgive.

    I too believe that karma will prevail and while I try to forgive, I certainly don’t forget.

    • Ilana 14. Dec, 2016 at 7:34 pm #

      Yes, through understanding I believe we can forgive, but I don’t think we ever forget; although perhaps for some people that will depend on the deed. I struggle with the act of the deed more, than the deed itself.

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