We all have things that we deal with, but for those who of us who deal with a disability, will have those things to deal with and the added complications arising from our disability.

This can often bring about emotional and mental challenges and may invite little understanding and tolerance from other people. When others have little tolerance for themselves, it means they will have little tolerance for us. Whatever we deal with, it’s important others are tolerant towards us.

There needs to be more tolerance in the world, patience and tolerance must always be a consideration. It’s what makes the world sweeter and what makes relationships function well.

24 Jan, 2015

10 thoughts on “Tolerance

  1. Tolerance isn’t something a lot of people have which is pretty evident with the way the world is right now!

    People aren’t very understanding when you have issues to deal with that they don’t understand. I grew up in a world where we were supposed to think certain ways about certain people, which has left me very confused at times.

    I try to not be judgmental and intolerant, but there are times when I do it without realizing. The biggest problem is, like you said, the issues you have had to deal with is people not being able to see the issues you have to deal with and the way they end up treating you.

    It would make the world a much better place if people actually paid more attention to what others may have to deal with!

    1. Thanks Randy. You’re right; I think the world is made up of people thinking certain ways about certain people. If our parents’ had opinions, their opinions became ours.

      Yes there is very little evidence out there to suggest the world is tolerant. I think if each of us learned to do one kind thing, we would learn how to become tolerant.

      It’s very sad that in the twenty first century, people have no tolerance to at least listen. That would be a start.

  2. Ilana, you were never invisible to anyone. When people see you, they see a reflection of their vulnerability in what you are dealing with; they see themselves. They refuse to see the truth of their own existence.

    I see beauty, strength and creativity in you through the eyes of tolerance.

    1. Awww thanks Tim. Now that you’ve put it like that I see and think the same as you and I think you’re spot… so true.

  3. I agree. Tolerance is a vital quality of what makes us human but it is sadly lacking; both in schools and in the working world and the planet would certainly be doing a whole lot better right now if religious tolerance was a priority.

  4. I also agree with Brad. I see a lot of intolerance toward kids with special needs and unfortunately it is our families that do it too.

    People need to learn tolerance in school or something.

    1. I agree with you and Brad. Families do it too… but I’m not sure whether that’s because of embarrassment; there’s a stigma still around disability; or families just can’t cope with the fact that they have a disabled child.

      It doesn’t make it right, it just makes it what it is. Hopefully in time families will do better.

  5. It’s frustrating not receiving tolerance from your own family. Growing up I always felt like I had no right to complain because when I did I was told it was my fault for feeling that way.

    I continued in life like nothing bothered me until I couldn’t take my family’s intolerance for me anymore. Unfortunately, when I did speak up I was blamed for it once again.

    1. Thanks Maria. I can empathise with you because I also had problems around family, who denied there was anything wrong with me even though I knew there was something wrong.

      Whichever way you look at your situation Maria, you still suffered emotional abuse by being told it was your fault. As the adult now, I’m sure you know it’s not your fault and can stop feeling guilty or responsible.

      I say stop feeling guilty or responsible because when you’re blamed for something and no one else is taking responsibility, it’s very easy to carry guilt and/or feel responsible.

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