I have experienced conflict. Some of us will continue to live with conflict. Others will walk away from it. Always try to turn conflict around.
How do we turn conflict around?
We must approach conflict as two equals trying to solve the issue, rather than stay caught up with the issue in mind, but it always helps if we start off on the right footing and in the right frame of mind.
Unfortunately, we tend to lose sight of where we are in our relationships, because we’re either too angry or agitated to care; but both sides must always have and continue to have each other’s interests at heart. Relationships must be open, honest and respectful. Without respect at the forefront of any relationship, there is always conflict. I have seen this in my life.
Resolutions to conflict are a necessary part of the process. It’s all too sad, but in order to sort out and understand we are dealing with conflict we have to recognise what those signs are and that’s not always easy, particularly when you’re in the throes of it. If it’s something that often happens and it becomes the norm, we become less consciously aware.
We can live amongst conflict and never make the connection that is what it is, but as long as we are able to recognise the signs of conflict and both parties are willing to mediate, conflict can be resolved.
The following suggestions may help:
- Try to draw on the things you agree on so that you’re able to work through possible solutions;
- Try not to stand in judgment on what the other persons says, even if the solutions offered seem way off the mark;
- Learn how to mediate and communicate without forming opinions that antagonise. When we antagonise we cause conflict;
- Try to make sure mutual consent and commitment to finding solutions is agreed by all parties.
Finally, it’s important that both sides get to express what they feel in a way that doesn’t undermine what the other person says. Mediation must continue until both parties are happy with the outcome and a solution has been reached.