We live our lives swallowing poison, expecting others to swallow first. We hold on to resentment and upset from other people, as if our lives depended on it and yet it’s us who live with the struggle.
But no matter how many things are done to us, we are the authors of our experiences, it’s up to us to create our own new experiences. No matter how unfair life is, we can’t change what happens, we can only change our own perceptions on what happens.
We hold on to poison because the identity we’ve calved out for ourselves, is usually better than no identity. We know the feelings associated with the identity we’ve created. We unconsciously apportion blame and see that as our justification, because that means the other person’s not off the hook.
As we unconsciously continue to tie them into how they’ve made us feel, we unconsciously tie those feelings back into how we can feel, as we continue to justify ourselves. We almost hope that what they’ve done to us will make them struggle. And as we continue to think this way, we’re shaping both our present and future.
We remain reticent in our thinking, because we have something that defines us and that gives us emotional strength. Emotional strength is important but it must be channelled positively and for the right reasons, not simply to discredit others.
Ultimately, we must step into a new version of ourselves, turning poison into nectar, before we drown, simply because we’re intent on bringing others down.