Unresolved issues

Unresolved issues can sometimes take the form of anger and should be addressed. It’s not fine, but as long as they’re our issues, then it is up to us to address those issues if they present. But what if those issues are put on someone else, when it’s clear they’re not to blame.

When anyone chooses to ignore an issue that affects someone else, it’s never long before that issue become more than just an issue. Issues don’t go away just because we choose not to deal with them.

Issues need to be addressed. When others ignore our issues that they should have been addressed, it can affect our confidence and self-esteem. When it comes to a loved one’s terminal illness, it may bring with it many other thoughts about what they haven’t dealt with and us carrying their guilt, because that has nowhere to go.

Sometimes a terminal illness may act as a reminder that things have never been put right or dealt with and possibly never will. Seeing someone struggle will always remind the other person of what that person didn’t deal with and for us that may be an impossible situation to reconcile.

11 Apr, 2012

6 thoughts on “Unresolved issues

  1. I think you’re right. Unresolved issues (family ones in particular do have the habit both of not going away and of resurfacing in the future, usually during an argument or at times of crisis.

    I do feel it depends on the personalities involved, but it’s better to address such issues early so they don’t escalate into much bigger problems later on.

    1. I think you’re right, but as you say and I have to agree with you, it does depend on the personality and whether it’s possible to even do that.

      We have to know who we’re dealing with, to know whether we will be successful or not at trying to resolve issues that have been left unresolved for some time.

  2. I think unresolved issues do lead to distress with all involved parties and then they get blown out of proportion when the heat is on. People seem to stew on things, then given the chance they blow up. It’s like sitting on a time bomb.

    Then there are the ones that end up feeling guilty because they didn’t deal with something when they had the chance and know it’s too late to then put things right.

  3. Addressing issues is important, but tough. Many issues affect others in ways that we may not see initially. Our own actions influence others in many aspects, including whether or not we decide to tackle a personal matter.

    It’s often helpful to know that others are there for support. I Agree with what you have written.

    1. You’re right, our actions will always influence others in many aspects, but if an issue does involve another person that other person should be responsible for the issue we have with them. Ignoring it doesn’t help anyone.

      Sometimes we will carry an issue and continue to feel bad because we’re not addressing the issue with the other person. From my own experience, when the other person ignores an issue that needs to be addressed, it’s usually because they’re not interested in putting it right.

      It’s fine and helpful that others are there to act as a support, but I feel issues do need to be addressed if we are to find peace within ourselves.

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