Unresolved issues can sometimes take the form of anger and should be addressed. It’s not fine, but as long as they’re our issues, then it is up to us to address those issues if they present. But what if those issues are put on someone else, when it’s clear they’re not to blame.
When anyone chooses to ignore an issue that affects someone else, it’s never long before that issue become more than just an issue. Issues don’t go away just because we choose not to deal with them.
Issues need to be addressed. When others ignore our issues that they should have been addressed, it can affect our confidence and self-esteem. When it comes to a loved one’s terminal illness, it may bring with it many other thoughts about what they haven’t dealt with and us carrying their guilt, because that has nowhere to go.
Sometimes a terminal illness may act as a reminder that things have never been put right or dealt with and possibly never will. Seeing someone struggle will always remind the other person of what that person didn’t deal with and for us that may be an impossible situation to reconcile.