Unresolved issues can sometimes take the form of anger and should be addressed. It’s not fine, but as long as they’re our issues, then it’s up to us to address those issues and anger if it’s presenting itself, but what if one of those issues is put on someone else, when it’s clear they are not to blame.
When anyone chooses to ignore an issue that should have been addressed that doesn’t affect them but affects someone else, it’s never long before that issue become more than just an issue. Issues don’t go away just because we don’t deal with them.
All issues need to be addressed. When others ignore our issues that should have been addressed, it does little for our confidence let alone our self-esteem. When it comes to a loved one’s terminal illness, it brings with it many other thoughts about what they haven’t dealt with and us carrying their guilt because that has nowhere to go.
Sometimes a terminal illness may act as a reminder that things have never been put right or dealt with and possibly never will. Seeing someone struggle will always remind the other person of what that person didn’t deal with and for us we will instinctively know.