Unresolved issues

Ignoring issues can sometimes take the form of anger and should be addressed.

Either way it’s not fine, but as long as they’re our own issues for us to deal with, then it’s up to us to address those issues and anger if anger is presenting itself; but what if one of those issues involves someone else, who is not to blame for that person’s anger.

When we choose to ignore an issue, particularly if it affects someone else, it’s never long before that issue become more than just an issue. Just because we don’t deal with issues doesn’t mean those issues go away. For me having Cerebral Palsy and it not being addressed meant that I would have to address this issue on my own, to try to figure out how to live with Cerebral Palsy and be comfortable with it.

I believe all issues needs to be addressed emotionally. When any issue is ignored,  it does little for our confidence, let alone our emotional wellbeing. When it comes to a terminal illness, it brings with it many other thoughts about what we haven’t dealt with and that will eventually bring about guilt, rightly so.

Seeing anyone is a gentle reminder that this is one thing or many things that have never been put right or dealt with and possibly never will. Seeing someone struggle will always remind that person of what they didn’t deal with and for us we will instinctively know. Body language accounts for everything.


11 Apr, 2012

6 thoughts on “Unresolved issues

  1. I think you’re right. Unresolved issues (family ones in particular do have the habit both of not going away and of resurfacing in the future, usually during an argument or at times of crisis.

    I do feel it depends on the personalities involved, but it’s better to address such issues early so they don’t escalate into much bigger problems later on.

    1. I think you’re right, but as you say and I have to agree with you, it does depend on the personality and whether it’s possible to even do that.

      We have to know who we’re dealing with, to know whether we will be successful or not at trying to resolve issues that have been left unresolved for some time.

  2. I think unresolved issues do lead to distress with all involved parties and then they get blown out of proportion when the heat is on. People seem to stew on things, then given the chance they blow up. It’s like sitting on a time bomb.

    Then there are the ones that end up feeling guilty because they didn’t deal with something when they had the chance and know it’s too late to then put things right.

  3. Addressing issues is important, but tough. Many issues affect others in ways that we may not see initially. Our own actions influence others in many aspects, including whether or not we decide to tackle a personal matter.

    It’s often helpful to know that others are there for support. I Agree with what you have written.

    1. You’re right, our actions will always influence others in many aspects, but if an issue does involve another person that other person should be responsible for the issue we have with them. Ignoring it doesn’t help anyone.

      Sometimes we will carry an issue and continue to feel bad because we’re not addressing the issue with the other person. From my own experience, when the other person ignores an issue that needs to be addressed, it’s usually because they’re not interested in putting it right.

      It’s fine and helpful that others are there to act as a support, but I feel issues do need to be addressed if we are to find peace within ourselves.

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