Ups & downs

We can’t have ups without downs, a negative without a positive, a good without a bad, so perhaps that’s the way we need to look at life too.

Our excitement wouldn’t be excitement without understanding our struggles before we get to be excited. Life is full of ups and downs, but we tend to equate the downs more than we do the ups.

Life is equally balanced, but we emotionally contribute to the downs because we’re never sure how we can bring ourselves back up again and that affects how long we’re down.

We must come to understand that life is and becomes equally balanced when we contribute to it and take control.

14 Dec, 2015

6 thoughts on “Ups & downs

  1. My life has never been anything like balanced! It was always so chaotic that I never knew if I was up, down, or sideways most of the time.

    I vaguely remember a few moments here and there where my life felt normal, but those were usually few and far between. I have dealt mostly with the downs which makes one’s life pretty miserable, but now I’m trying to change things.

    I don’t have the power to control my life but I do have the ability to choose how I respond to what is going on. It’s just not always that easy to remind myself that I do have choices in my life, when I spent so long just accepting whatever came along.

    Right now it would be great to just have a happy medium where my life could be at least just okay! I’m not expecting kittens and rainbows, but a little bit above, hellfire and damnation would be a step up in my world.

    It may require making a lot of difficult decisions that won’t be pleasant, but in the long run, I will survive through it. It’s just ridiculous at my age to be so unhappy and miserable because I don’t always have the courage to do what needs to be done.

    There are many things that I can actually do, which I need to focus on, rather than dwell on all the things I didn’t do. All we have is today and that’s what I need to work with.

    1. Thanks Randy, yes your last sentence sums up your response nicely.

      You’re right, we only have to day because the past has gone and the future not’s there. Living in the moment is what we have and that’s what we must continue to work on.

      It’s important for anyone at any age to be happy of course, but as you know that’s not always how it works. That said, I believe we have the power to change certain aspects of our life, but not all the time.

      When we’ve lived with little choice, it’s not easy coming away from the old patterns, but we do have the power to turn things around.

      I personally believe that if more of us did the right thing, in our families, environment and society as a whole, we’d all be better placed to live more balanced lives.

  2. I remember a quote about life ups and downs and I think I recall it correctly as, “Life is not linear; you have ups and downs.

    It’s how you deal with the troughs that defines you” and I couldn’t agree more.

  3. The down moments in life cause me more of an emotional toll. It feels like there’s no light at the end of the tunnel. Fortunately, an up moment always shows up.

    I believe the bad moments make us appreciate more the good moments.

    1. Thanks Maria. Yes I also believe the bad moments help us appreciate the good moments more, but I find that unless we’re in control and can turn those bad moments around fairly quickly, we end up with more bad moments.

      Although I believe life is fairly balanced, I agree it tends to take longer to work through the bad moments than it does to work through the good moments.

      As you so eloquently put it, it tends to feel like there’s no light at the end of the tunnel. Bad moments tend to last forever and even if they don’t, they seem as if they do.

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