21 Apr 2017
Although mediation is usually involved and refers to an intervention in a dispute to resolve that dispute, I also believe there’s a different explanation that works in life too. Mediation is an intervention in a process or relationship and should work in families too.
Families don’t always use mediation as a tool. We offer an opinion, the opinion isn’t accepted then we fall out or walk away, depending on what comes first. Mediation should be used as a tool between two people to bring a discussion or opinion to a conclusion, without having to bring a third party in to do it.
There needs to be more of it. We’re too quick to throw in the towel instead of offering an olive branch and using mediation to talk about what we feel, to get the other person’s opinion and for them to mediate back with us. Having grown in an environment where mediation should have been used, I never got why they didn’t try hard enough.
We should want to change and use mediation to work through our issues together. Issues aren’t unique, we all have them. Mediation should help bring about that much needed clarification and understanding into our lives.
It isn’t difficult to do, but we must want to, to find a resolve on our issues and then to solve our disagreements, in that order. It starts with us every time.