The value of any friendship is important and although friendships are important and should be embraced, it’s important to be around people who elevate our mood, not bring us down.
We tend to conform to relationships whether they’re right for us or not, because we’re afraid to be left with nothing. The same applies to family too. We’re also afraid others will see us as outcasts, because we’re out of the loop. I would personally have one or two good friends, than a handful of friends who leave me emotionally drained fighting for our every existence.
Friends should elevate our mood, not bring our mood down and even if they can’t always do that, it’s important to have some understanding on what they deal with, or for those friends to say what’s wrong. When mum was diagnosed with lung cancer my friends disappeared without a trace and when I eventually managed to get hold of them to tell them how disappointed I was that they had not supported me, my words were met with discord.
Spiritually it would be difficult to grow in these kind of relationships. I severed links and looking back I have no regrets. I’m a lot happier now.