We choose what we see

Perception doesn’t record reality, perceptions record what we want to see in the way we want to see. We see what we want to see.

How it all works

Our mind constructs how we choose to see the world. Perceptions depend on our own assumptions of what we think and how we see things. We all have a different take on what we see, then we build our reality around that.

The things we believe are real, are governed by our perceptions. Some of the things that seem real to us, may not seem real to someone else looking at the same scenario, circumstance, or person, primarily because it serves our purpose, is often easier and we’re reluctant to change.

It’s the way we think that changes what we see and how we see it, which may explain why we go through life judging others in a way we saw them, instead of basing our judgments or opinions on the way they are now. We may not always be how we used to be and yet we are sometimes judged for how others remember us to be.

We go through life and grow into the person we become as an adult. As children, we are governed by our circumstances, by our environment, by our parents. As independent adults, we get to choose how we then want to live, by making the relevant changes we choose what we want to see. Those who struggle to move on will sometimes have a hard time accepting that.

We can choose to hold on to the old character traits as a child, or we can work to change how we get to live or see our lives and then choose what we want to see. But others have to mentally attune themselves to the new us.


27 Dec, 2016

6 thoughts on “We choose what we see

  1. Yes, we do definitely choose what we want to see in the end. I grew up being forced to see things in a certain way even though I knew something wasn’t right. My parents expected us to act like everything was okay, even though we pretty much had a herd of elephants stampeding through our house all of the time.

    My perception of reality was very limited, like I was wearing blinders after a while, so I wasn’t seeing things as they really were. We had hopes, dreams and desires that they systematically worked on crushing, seeing as they never wanted us to leave them. People have a hard time believing what we went through, but I have siblings who can verify the facts.

    Now it’s a matter of fighting every day to take those blinders off and be able to see the world as I want to. I don’t have to live in their glass half empty kind of world, where life sucks and then you die.

    Life isn’t always fair or unicorns and rainbows, but it really isn’t all that bad either. I get to choose how to live my own life rather than have it dictated by the people around me, as I have done for so long.

    I’m just sad that it took me so long to figure it out but at least I still have a few good years left, I’m hoping. I grew up in a very black and white world but I do know there has to be some grey there. Life is worth living.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, it took me a long time to figure things out too. Although I left home in my mid twenties, I still didn’t have full independence in the true sense.

      I figure that as long as we continue to work on choosing what we see and being happy with what we see, we’re changing our life anyway and that’s positive; more than we had. When we’re looking at another person’s perceptions, we will always see that person’s perceptions.

      It’s important we see and work on our own. Once we make the transition we never look back. Because we make the transition, it feels good when we do.

  2. I agree. We choose to see what suites us, consciously or not. We are conditioned to think one way and have to work hard to change that programming.

    Some manage and others don’t. Some don’t ever get to understand that they can change, but I believe we all can.

  3. I personally lived my experiences, so I think I have a true and correct account of what I’ve seen. But wisdom tells me that I’m programmed to see things a certain way, at least to some extent.

    I guess most of the time I want people to see what I see; no doubt they may view things differently.

    1. Yes, it’s easy not to think about or have to work through another person’s view point. I am more convinced by that train of thought, than I am other people just don’t get our view point.

      There will be those who genuinely don’t understand or see our point, but I feel others tend to take the easier option, because that way they don’t have to communicate on a deeper level that may bring about an altogether different mindset.

      I always bring emotional growth into this equation, because when we choose to see another person’s view point, we are becoming more emotionally and spiritually aware and to me that is massively important.

      For those of us who continue to see a different view point to the one being expressed, perhaps we’re just not emotionally or spiritually ready to accept someone else’s version of events.

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