Perception doesn’t record reality; perception records what we want to see in the way we want to see it. Our mind constructs how we choose to see the world.
Perceptions depend on our assumptions of what we think and how we see things. We all have a different take on what we see, then we build our reality around that. The things we believe are real, are governed by our perceptions.
Some of the things that we perceive as real, is not real to someone else looking at the same scenario, primarily because we’re reluctant to change what we see, it serves our purpose and is easier.
It’s the way we think that changes what we see and how we see it, which may explain why we go through life judging others in a way we saw them, instead of basing our judgments or opinions on the way they are now. We may not always be how we used to be, and yet we may sometimes be judged for how others remember us to be.
Through the healing process, we grow into the person we become. As children, we are governed by our circumstances, by our environment, by our parents. As adults, we get to choose how we then want to live, by making the relevant changes. Those who struggle to move on will have a hard time accepting that we have.
We can choose to hold on to the old character traits as a child, or we can work to change how we get to live or see our lives and then choose what we want to see. But for it to work others must mentally attune themselves to the new us.