Perception doesn’t record reality, perceptions record what we want to see in the way we want to see. We see what we want to see.
How it all works
Our mind constructs how we choose to see the world. Perceptions depend on our own assumptions of what we think and how we see things. We all have a different take on what we see, then we build our reality around that.
The things we believe are real, are governed by our perceptions. Some of the things that seem real to us, may not seem real to someone else looking at the same scenario, circumstance, or person, primarily because it serves our purpose, is often easier and we’re reluctant to change.
It’s the way we think that changes what we see and how we see it, which may explain why we go through life judging others in a way we saw them, instead of basing our judgments or opinions on the way they are now. We may not always be how we used to be and yet we are sometimes judged for how others remember us to be.
We go through life and grow into the person we become as an adult. As children, we are governed by our circumstances, by our environment, by our parents. As independent adults, we get to choose how we then want to live, by making the relevant changes we choose what we want to see. Those who struggle to move on will sometimes have a hard time accepting that.
We can choose to hold on to the old character traits as a child, or we can work to change how we get to live or see our lives and then choose what we want to see. But others have to mentally attune themselves to the new us.