If I were to tell you we are responsible for our own stress, you would probably laugh, point the finger at me, or shrug my comment off altogether. You may even get cross at the sheer thought, after all who wants to be told they are the reason for their own stress.
I’m not sure how many of us are open to the idea, yet it’s a fact this is what we do. Stress is self-generated. We create and are responsible for our own stress. Others will contribute to our stress and although we don’t have control over their behaviour and the way they behave towards us, we do have control over ourselves.
Knowing this may be seen as negative, it’s actually quite constructive. Anything that shows us and makes us aware is always a good thing, but we will need to make ourselves aware of where our stressors are coming from for us to acknowledge and accept that we can do something about it.
Addressing stress, inducing thoughts and behaviour will always help reduce stress. Other internal stressors tend to include depression, fear of a particular worry, uncertainties. A lack of control by not being able to control a particular outcome, or not being in control of our reaction to a particular outcome.
Beliefs are also a factor, as are our opinions and expectations, particularly because of the expectations we put on ourselves. External factors play their part, but it’s up to us to be responsible enough to at least try to understand where those factors are coming from and why.
The nature of external factors mean stress will always be a factor in our lives, but with the right attitude, we can get a grip on the amount of stress we let into our lives.