If someone were to tell you that you are responsible for your own stress, you would probably laugh or shrug it off. You may even get cross, after all who wants to be told they are the reason for their own stress?
How many of us are open to the idea that stress is self-generated? Others will contribute to our stress, and although we don’t have control over their behaviour, we do have control over how we deal with stress.
This may be seen as something negative, but it’s actually quite constructive. Anything that makes us self-aware is a good thing, but we must also make ourselves aware of where our stressors are coming from, so that we acknowledge and accept we can do something about those. Addressing stress is important.
Internal stressors can include our inability to control a particular outcome, uncertainty, our reaction to uncertainty, and in certain cases, depression. Beliefs are a factor, as are our opinions and expectations, particularly the expectations we put upon ourselves.
External factors play their part, but it’s up to us to be responsible, and understand where those external factors are coming from and why. External factors mean stress will be present, but with the right attitude, we can control just how much we let in.