If I were to tell you we are responsible for our own stress, you would probably laugh or shrug it off. You may even get cross; after all, who wants to be told they are the reason for their own stress?
I’m not sure how many of us are open to the idea, yet it’s a fact that stress is self-generated. Others will contribute to it, and although we don’t have control over their behaviour and the way they behave towards us, we do have control over ourselves.
This may be seen as negative, but it’s actually quite constructive. Anything that makes us self-aware is a good thing, but we will also need to make ourselves aware of where our stressors are coming from in order to acknowledge and accept that we can do something about it.
Addressing stress through our thoughts and behaviour will always help reduce it. Internal stressors can include depression, a particular worry, uncertainty, and the inability to control a particular outcome, or our reaction to it.
Beliefs are also a factor, as are our opinions and expectations, particularly the expectations we put on ourselves. External factors play their part, but it’s up to us to be responsible enough to at least try to understand where those stress factors are coming from and why.
External factors mean stress will always be present in our lives, but with the right attitude, we can control the amount we let in.