The way we look at life determines our thoughts and experiences and we are responsible for both. The bigger picture will always present us with an opportunity to change the way we see the world and what we deal with, but to do that we must first cut through the belief system we have created for ourselves.
Unfortunately, the limits we have are the ones we create and place on ourselves. Because we fail to explore the possibilities that lie beyond our initial thoughts, we block further possibilities of finding answers to some of the issues we deal with. The thoughts we create are determined through our beliefs.
We tend to look at events and situations and interpret other people’s thoughts and feelings through our own set of beliefs. Our beliefs will include past experiences; culture; our values and faith that help us form beliefs about the world, ourselves and other people.
That’s fine of course, but can mean we get stuck, if the meaning we give to events is based upon other people’s values, rather than our own. If our core values are solely based upon someone else’s values and beliefs, our values and beliefs will be based on what those people want and not on what we would like for ourselves and those will determine our experiences.
Our experiences need to be based on our own need and not what others have taught us to think about. Sadly, growing up, we’re not always taught to think for ourselves, we’re taught to follow family values.