We make assumptions about people before we really know. In some cases, we’ll agree we’ve wrongly assumed what we’ve assumed about that person and in other cases rather than initiate we were a little too quick to judge, we’ll keep up the pretence rather that admit were wrong.
Perhaps it’s us wanting to be right, so will never admit we’re wrong; or what we see in someone else, is as a reflection of what we see in ourselves. We may go out of our way to prove to ourselves and to others that we’re right, but we will always pay a price for the privilege of being intellectually dishonest with ourselves.
Being intellectually dishonest is our failure to apply standards of rational evaluation that we are aware of, but we do it to suit ourselves. We tend to judge others more critically than we do ourselves. We know the truth, but instead will choose not to see it.
We’re more than up to recognising the way in which we choose to fool ourselves and for what reason, but like we fool ourselves, we’re also capable of working things out by seeing exactly what we’re supposed to see.
We need to see people the way they present and not the way we want them to be. Seeing people the way they present means we’ll be able to communicate effectively without the need to make assumptions.