We make assumptions about people before we really know anything about them.
When confronted, we’ll wrongly assume and then keep up the pretence, rather than admit we were wrong. Perhaps it’s us wanting to be right, so we’ll never admit we’re wrong, what we see in someone else is as a reflection of what we see in ourselves.
We may go out of our way to prove to ourselves that we’re right, but we will always pay a price for the privilege of being intellectually dishonest with ourselves.
Being intellectually dishonest is us failing to apply standards of rational evaluation that we are aware of; we do it to suit ourselves. We judge others harshly, more than we do ourselves. We know the truth, but we choose not to see it.
We’re more than up to recognising the way in which we choose to fool ourselves, but like we fool ourselves, we’re also capable of working things out by seeing exactly what we’re supposed to see.
We need to see people and communicate effectively with them without making assumptions. Unless we’re incapable of seeing the truth, we must work with the truth.