We think we know

Do we ever know someone, I mean really know someone? Perhaps it’s the people we think we know the most that we really don’t know at all.

There is a difference between knowing someone and knowing about them. We never can know someone unless we work from the soul. The soul is the key to how we respond with each other.

It’s the soul that guides and directs our behaviour and actions in the physical form, but we must listen out for what the soul says. The soul carries an imprint of how we’re supposed to behave, instead of how we consciously choose to behave. Because we don’t work from the soul, outwardly we will always portray as many different characters as we choose. Individually we change, but the soul never will.

Unfortunately, we can never get to know other people when they don’t show their feelings or talk about the things that matter. We also can’t know others when they don’t bring us into their confidence, when they don’t talk about the issues that concern them and what makes them who they are, what they feel and how they feel at any given time.

It’s a sad reality for many of us, when we’re presented with something that we didn’t even think was possible from someone we thought we knew, then we come to know we didn’t know that person at all.

It’s easy to believe we think we know, but we can never know. Perhaps we live in hope because we want things to happen with that person, the way we assume it will.


30 Apr, 2016

6 thoughts on “We think we know

  1. Far too many people only show the side of themselves that they want you to see, while hiding the person they really are!

    They are fantastic actors, who seem to instinctively know how to act to get what they want from others. I tend to compare them to predators who are able to smell fear and use it to their advantage.

    It took me a long time to figure out how toxic people kept taking advantage of me. They are able to read people who are desperate and/or lonely who have what they want and use that ability to get it. Over time I have watched others do it and have seen how oblivious these people were to the obvious con games these people play.

    I just had to figure it out as it drove me insane watching; so many nice girls fall for the bad boys, who were only looking to get lucky! There came a time when I figured out that I kept doing the same thing; since I was such a sucker for a sob story and a pretty face!

    This was when I finally realized that people quite often only see what they want to see and nothing you can do or say will get them to see it! They so often have daddy issues, (or mommy issues, in my case) that blind them to the fact that they’re using these other people as substitutes for the actual people they’ll never be able to make happy.

    I haven’t quite figured out the right term for it, but it made perfect sense once I made that connection! This is what happens when people all of a sudden snap when those masks are stripped away and they can’t keep up the charade.

    They have pretended to be what they aren’t for so long that they have lost the person who they really are. You also have the psychopaths, who use this masking ability to convince people that they’re somebody that they really aren’t, like televangelists and pedophile priests!

    People don’t really surprise me anymore, since I have seen the worst that people have to offer and they’re usually the last person you would expect. It isn’t very often, as long as I pay attention to my instincts that people can really pull one over on me!

    The problem I have is when I don’t, since they’re usually 100% spot on which is the only reason I survived my childhood. People don’t often believe me, nor is it something I share very often, since they tend to lock you away and throw away the key when you tell them.

    There were a lot of people I thought I knew, being an empath and being able to read them, who turned out to be the most horrible people! Yes, you can’t always tell what people are really like, but I tend to believe you should really trust your first instincts as they’re there for a reason.

    If you think someone happens to be batshit crazy that usually means that they are! If someone manages to surprise you, this usually means they have been that way all along. Don’t beat yourself up too much since we’re only human!

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes I couldn’t agree more. I think if more of us learned how to trust our first instinct we’d get so much more of our lives right, for ourselves and with other people.

      I can resonate with a lot of what you have written here. Your understanding is absolutely spot on, but can’t help but think it’s us who has to change our perceptions so that we can move on with our own lives.

      Are people that really bothered? Perhaps that’s part of the problem, or they don’t see or understand their own behaviour. When we consciously fail to think about our behaviour, we don’t stop to question.

      I am who I am and I know what I know, what you see is what you get. No pretence. People can either take me or leave me and I’m okay with that. We shouldn’t have to fit in.

      It’s sad when we feel we have to impress just to fit in, be someone we’re not. It’s even more sad that the people in our lives, who we think we know, we find we don’t really know them at all.

      We shouldn’t have to trust our first instincts with anyone. I find it sad that we have to behave a certain way, but find it even more sad when we have to behave a certain way with a parent because the walls are up.

  2. I am not so sure we ever do REALLY know someone. We think we do, but as most of us never really know ourselves how can we know someone else ?

    There are few people in our lives who only stay long enough for us to drop the facades that we naturally use as a defence and be true to those people about ourselves. This may be easier if we learned to be true to ourselves.

    1. Thanks, yes I personally find it sad, because we could change that scenario within minutes, well probably not minutes; but you get the gist.

      I do think you’re right and this starts with us every time. When we get to know ourselves, come to terms with everything about ourselves, we’ll have more time and energy to like and want to spend our time with others, getting to know them.

      We can’t know others in the true sense and they can’t know us, when we have no clue about ourselves.

  3. You hit it on the nail Ilana! I read your whole blog to my dad, who I felt really needed to hear your words, from the soul. It’s helped him immensely.

    1. Awww thanks Bonnie, that’s so sweet of you. I’m so pleased my blog helped your dad. It helps me to hear that.

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