To take some form of control back, we must do some soul searching on what we’re struggling with. Having struggled with trauma for most of my life, I have come to understand what trauma is.
As already briefly explained, trauma is something that is brought about through a stressful event that can change how we feel. Trauma can interfere with ones sense of security, making one feel open to vulnerable situations and just feeling helpless.
Forms of trauma
Traumatic experiences may involve a threat to our safety or even life. But any situation that leaves us feeling alone and overwhelmed can be traumatic in itself, even if it doesn’t involve us being harmed physically. It is never the objective facts that determine whether the situation or event is traumatic, but our emotional experience to that event.
The more we feel frightened and left unable to cope, the more likely we are to feel traumatised. Stressful events can be traumatic if the event happens unexpectedly and we’re not prepared. Trauma can also be something that happens repeatedly, or if someone wittingly sets out to hurt.
For some of us trauma is part of every day life. Trauma can also be caused by an event that happens just the once, can be caused by a single-blow, such as an attack or a horrific car accident, or through a natural disaster. Trauma can also come from ongoing stress, such as struggling with a terminal illness or a condition that changes our life dramatically.
Trauma can go unrecognised and in many situations it does, because we don’t often equate trauma to smaller experiences. Trauma can also relate to a fall or a sports injury, the sudden death of someone close to us, the breakup of a significant relationship, a condition where one has been left disabled or an experience that leaves us totally humiliated without being able to act on it.
Whatever our experiences, there are ways forward but as with everything it’s how we react to trauma that will determine the outcome.