What we want for others won’t work, unless they want those things for themselves. They have to want to help themselves and that needs to happen if they’re to live their lives and do more than just exist.
People are reluctant to help themselves because they’re not always sure how or where to start. They’re afraid of the unknown, the apprehension that comes with change. They’re also often in denial about needing help.
It’s important for us to recognise when we need help and it’s only when we admit we need help that our lives will change. It’s usually only when we hit rock bottom that we unconsciously accept that we need help, that when we come to bring ourselves back from rock bottom, we can see how far we spiralled.
For those with addictive personalities, it’s slightly harder. It also depends on how long we’ve hit rock bottom and how much work we’ve got to do to get ourselves back up again.
Usually, recognition becomes the first step for any transition, where we accept that we need help and that things need to change.