There is nothing wrong with you caring, but expecting others to care because you care, isn’t something always afforded to you.
You’ll know when it’s time not to care and it’s time to let go, when:
- The time and energy we’re putting in isn’t reciprocated;
- You’re growing apart;
- You’re trying too hard to make the relationship work;
- Friends or family stop making you a better version of yourself;
- When you can’t count on the other person;
- When you’re being ignored;
- When you’re dealing with abuse;
- When they have a hidden agenda;
- When their life is about them;
- When it’s clear your issues are being ignored;
- When they don’t want to know and they don’t have your back.
When it comes to others you must stop wanting things to be right, when it’s clear they’re not right. Relationships shouldn’t feel strained or be difficult.
Focus on what you can control. When it becomes to feel too stressful, when everything about the friendship becomes a challenge and you know in your gut it’s not working, it’s time to walk away.
If you want to stop caring, it is time to make changes to your belief system. Not caring won’t make you heartless, or mean-spirited, but rather you’ll free yourself from the burden of needing to please others and not feel guilty about it.
Not everyone is worth your time, energy and support. We usually do that at the cost of our own mental health. Be honest with yourself. The truth is you are the one that’s worth your time, energy and support.