People often think that the only time children have to resist the temptation to act as an intermediary between their parents is when their parents go through a divorce, but it doesn’t start there.
What parents don’t always see or realise, is that every issue they can’t agree on that ends up in a disagreement, also becomes an issue for their children who will try to resist the temptation to get involved. It’s easy for children to get caught up in their parents’ disagreements.
It’s hard enough growing up, without children having to navigate or scoot around behaviour issues brought about by their parents. My parents didn’t divorce, but my experiences were very similar to parents who should have gone through a divorce.
Feuding parents don’t have to go through an acrimonious divorce for their arguments to have an emotional impact on their children. Children should always be encouraged to stay out of their parents’ arguments and for parents to resist the temptation to bring their children into those arguments.
It’s important for parents to find middle ground. As children grow up, they need to continue to maintain healthy relationships with both their parents, just as parents need to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
It’s not only important for a child’s emotional health but for their physical and spiritual health too and that of the parent.