People often think that the only time children have to resist the temptation to act as an intermediary between their parents is when the parents go through a divorce, but sadly it doesn’t start there.
What parents don’t always realise, is that every issue that ends up in a disagreement also becomes an issue for their children, even if children try to resist the temptation to get involved. It’s easy for children to get caught up in their parents’ disagreements.
It’s hard enough growing up, without children having to navigate around behaviour issues brought about by their parents. My parents didn’t divorce, but my experiences were very similar to children whose parents did.
Feuding parents don’t have to go through an acrimonious divorce for their arguments to have an emotional impact on their children. Children should always be encouraged to stay out of their parents’ arguments, and parents should resist the temptation to bring their children into their arguments.
It is important for parents to find middle ground. As children grow up, they need to continue to maintain healthy relationships with both their parents, just as parents need to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
It’s not only important for a child’s emotional health, but for their physical and spiritual health too and that of their parents.