When souls connect

The soul is what we have in common, and yet we can spend a lifetime in relationships thinking we have nothing in common, with the people we share our lives with.

We may think our relationships aren’t working because we have nothing in common, but it’s not always about having things in common. Relationships connect through the soul. If you are with the right person you know, because your souls connect.

Relationships and friendships are less stressful when two souls connect on a level far greater than what we see physically, on the outside. When souls connect, you don’t have to try too hard.

Away from the soul we should continue to work on our relationships; listen more attentively, communicate and be prepared to continue making those emotional connections. Sounds obvious, but it’s not as obvious as you think. We may become complacent; we don’t always try, or make the effort.

When souls connect, we already have that in common. Unfortunately, when we place too much value on material worth, we may fail to see, or work on our connections.  Relationships need empathy, compassion and tolerance.

Sadly, with all that is happening in the world, we in fact have the opposite. But by making others a priority and being attentive, relationships can work, even without the soulful connections.

19 May, 2017

4 thoughts on “When souls connect

  1. You often hear the term ‘soul mate’ which personally, I don’t agree with, as I believe you have to work on relationships, rather than rely on a predestined connection.

    Empathy, compassion, tolerance and respect will help us connect in our relationships, qualities we possess, but rarely implement.

    1. Your last paragraph sums up your response beautifully. Empathy, compassion, tolerance and respect, ‘qualities we possess.’ If we already possess those qualities, why are they not being used??

      I believe we all know what those qualities are, but unless we have a spiritual connection, a lot of the ‘earthly trappings’ will override those qualities. We don’t possess them until we use them, then we have them.

  2. I haven’t had a lot of luck in this area seeing as I was forced as a child to deal with people, whether I liked them or not.

    Therefore, this has continued into my relationships where I have tried to put a square peg into a round hole, as the expression goes. Obviously, this hasn’t ever worked as much as I tried, since you can’t make people happy who aren’t happy with themselves.

    I was forced to do this for my mother, who brainwashed me into thinking that it was my mission in life to make her happy. The problem was that no matter what I did, she wasn’t ever happy and that responsibility shouldn’t have been forced on me to begin with. It’s no wonder I have kept repeating the same pattern in relationships and expecting different results.

    This soul connection hasn’t happened many times in my life, so I don’t really believe in it the way that so many others do. The whole term of soul mates, sounds like an oxymoron to me, considering people waste their whole lives looking for that perfect partner and overlook the ones who may be just right for them at the time.

    My first crush did this to me and spent the past 20 years or so, suffering through one terrible relationship after another. The last time I dealt with her I had to finally walk away because she stuck me into the friend zone and I couldn’t stick around to watch the horrors that were to come.

    We finally reconnected thanks to the world of Facebook and she has admitted that she should have given me a chance back then. Time will tell how this will turn out, seeing as I am currently in another one of those relationships which will probably be ending very badly, as always.

    I’m just in a period of deep reflection seeing as my Dad passed away and I don’t even have the luxury of properly grieving. I may not even be able to go to my own dad’s funeral, seeing as there has been so much family drama between my current girlfriend and my family.

    I’m still unsure of exactly what happened, but they have butted heads due to control issues and now the chaos has ensued. Suffice to say that it has become a 3 ring circus, which was the last thing that we needed right now.

    I just wonder why it is that funerals tend to bring out the worst in people, when it’s a time that should be bringing out the best in people. I’m just reminded of why it was that I wanted to end my life, seeing as you get exhausted dealing with people.

    I’ll just be glad when the funeral is over but even that I may not have a chance to see.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, personally I’m not sure it takes to get to the funeral as such for it to bring out the worst in families. If families are that way inclined, it happens at any time. I do think there is some truth in what you say about funerals though.

      It’s at that time where control issues tend to come out. I agree. Those times should be where families come together. It’s a shame that some families don’t come together and connect on deeper levels.

      It’s true when they say, we can choose our friends, but not our families and if that’s true, isn’t it better we all at least try to make the effort.

      I’m so sorry to hear about your dad Randy. Hopefully it won’t be long now before this part of your life with your parents is behind you, once you get through the funeral. Good luck.

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