I wonder how many of us with one condition or another, have spent our entire lives pleasing family and friends just so that we will fit in, be accepted, be nurtured, loved, understood and cared for?
It was something I did constantly. There were two parts of me growing up. One part of me was angry and that surfaced many times, I was constantly to blame for everything when things went wrong and I happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time.
The other side of me wanted to please. I would constantly go out of my way to please, which I did for most of my adult life, until my middle 20’s. I learned a lot in those years. I learned that I didn’t need to say ‘Yes’ all the time, because that always comes at a price.
I also learned that others should be accepting, regardless of what we deal with and if that doesn’t happen, then it’s okay for us to walk away. That we cannot always change others, they have to want to do that for themselves. My experiences have allowed me to make better choices.