We hold on to the things we know aren’t meant for us because although on an unconscious level we know they aren’t really ours, we would still like them to be. We also hold on because we’re scared of letting go and because we’re not great with change.
We spend a lifetime looking for things, trying to prove the things that are not self-evident, because we need them to be. We hold on because those things are what we know, they’re familiar. All things familiar is more comforting and easier than those things non-familiar.
Letting go has everything to do with either accepting that something isn’t going to work, or accepting that something may have already happened and those may become our struggle. We choose to hold on because it’s easier, but holding on in the longer term will always be more challenging, because the transition of letting go will always be harder. It stands to reason that the longer we hold on the longer it will take to finally let go and move on.
When things are meant to be, it takes little mental and emotional effort to keep those things ticking over. Those things are never forced, they will never leave us irritated or stop to question ourselves, because they feel right. Perhaps we hold on because we already know our limitations. We’re scared of the transition and uncertainty, so we hold on. That in itself will inhibit emotional and personal growth.
Unfortunately, we can never prove ourselves by convincing others we’re doing the right thing, but perhaps there’s an element of we really don’t need to, as long as the decision we make is right for us. We’re not here to convince others, but we do need to detach ourselves from the things that don’t serve us and let go. We must be honest with ourselves.
It’s human nature to have an idea of how things are supposed to look in our heads and perhaps that’s why we hold on. When we have the things we’re meant to have, we will stop looking for the external things, whether those are material possessions or people. The sad reality is that we often learn too late. It’s part of the human condition.
There are the things we don’t have to look for, because they’re there, they feel right and we don’t have to think about those. When we have to think about things, perhaps those are the things we need to let go of.