We will stop questioning ourselves when we start believing in ourselves. We question ourselves because we lack the confidence to believe in ourselves. It’s a vicious circle.
Believing in ourselves is another way of saying we have confidence. When we have the confidence, we’re telling ourselves and the world we can do this. But without self-belief we will fail on confidence and without the confidence we will lack courage, strength and self-motivation.
I can’t remember a time when I stopped to question myself in that way. There were too many injustices going on, for me to throw daggers at myself. Sadly, we will spend a lifetime questioning ourselves more, than we begin to question why we’re questioning ourselves. It’s not always about us. Therefore, we must question others more than we question ourselves.
Perhaps also, it’s important we think about why and look at our lives again and re-evaluate where we are. It’s always easier to question and point the finger at ourselves, than it is to point and apportion the blame back on to someone else. We do it because that guilt has nowhere else to go.
Unless others are open and honest about their motivates, they will continue to point the finger, instead of accepting they’re the ones at fault. Although I was aware of the things I struggled with and continued to carry guilt on those things, unconsciously I must have been aware of the bigger picture.
Perhaps that’s why I didn’t bother to question or point the finger at myself. I was too aware of the parts played by others.