I believe the reason we slip back into old patterns is because we’re governed by our unconscious thoughts, so we’re not always in a good head space. We consciously tell ourselves we want a different life, but our unconscious continues to control our conscious thoughts.
We start with good intentions. We tell ourselves we’re going to make amends that things are going to be different. That we’re going to get our act together, that we’re going to move forward, but the reality is that until we put ourselves in a better head space and deal with our unconscious thoughts, our chances remain very slim.
We can handle most things when the mind is functioning well. When the mind is right and we begin to feel better, we will start to make the changes we need to make. Although addiction has slightly different connotations, we still need to work from the same positive mind set, to change how we see and deal with the addiction.
Mindfulness allows us to concentrate on deepening the mind from a more positive place. It’s a process that allows us to explore mindful practices that we can incorporate into our daily lives through empathy, compassion, confidence, tolerance and authenticity.
Practice mindfulness takes us through the psychological process, focusing on the internal and external experiences that occur in the present moment, exploring our experiences more fully, so that we can begin to look at and perceive those experiences differently. I have used reflection as a tool to mindfulness over the years to deal with my own issues.
We can also look at mindfulness through the practice of meditation or other psychological training. We must continually try to pull ourselves up into a better head space. With a clear head and a positive mind, we become more focused and that means we’re less likely to slip back into the old bad patterns.